Tag Archives: Taming Fears

BE KIND AND CAUTIOUS

Giving to charity is practicing kindness, a major emotional fitness exercise, however, both parents and children need to be cautious when giving money away.

A blog post about checking our charities before contributing.PARENTING ADVICE ABOUT GIVING TO CHARITY

Charity Watch is a good place to visit before writing a check for any charity.  Two examples: There are over 60,000 charities that use the word Veteran in their title. Easy to know why. People care about our soldiers. Many are worthy, but others are not.

One of the largest churches brags about its charitable donations, but only 7 per cent of what is contributed gets to the people in need.  The Red Cross on the other hand puts 97 per cent of what it raises to people in need.

You can also just type a question like this “Is Wounded Warriors a Good Charity?” into your browser and get a rating.  Wounded Warrior gets three stars out of four.

Staying Strong

Part of my effort at this stage of my life is to leave a legacy.  My love is my family’s legacy.  But I am also eager to share some of my hard-earned knowledge about emotional fitness.  You may have noticed, I am promoting my sharing knowledge business aka Emotional Fitness Training, Inc.

As part of that effort, I am changing my Emotional Fitness Pinterest Boards to better reflect emotional fitness.  The biggest change right now  is trying to creat a board for each exercise. I am currently working on the Practice Kindness Board.  Visit it for more tips about being cautious when giving to charity.

I also wrote a long post on Emotional Fitness Training’s Blog about being cautious.  I started with a story about when I why I give to street beggars, something most people say is a “No-no and then added six tips for wise giving.   Here is that link. 

Given my coming birthday party and book launch event, my last reminder of that page was  in the form of a Cranky Old Lady Rants Poster. 

A cranky old lady rant.

For all you do to support me and others, as always thank you.

Stay strong, I work at it all the time.

Katherine

 

PLAYING WITH BEING SCARED

A child of Grimm’s Fairy Tales, Maurice Sendak understood that little kids loved to walk on the wild side in the safety of their parent’s arms.

The right doses of scared, strengthen kids to face the world.
The right doses of scary stuff strengthens kids to face the world. 

PARENT ADVICE ABOUT THE SCARY STUFF

Hovering parents and the Just-Keep-Kids-Happy gurus miss an opportunity to help kids face reality and build emotional strength. The main trick is to make the scary stuff just a bit above the child’s comfort level and then to use those times as teachable moments.

Tip one:  Honor the need of the young and not so young to test facing fears AND at the same start teaching what is real and what is not.  

Tip two: The smallest among us don’t have the judgement to know what is real and what is not. Any parent whose kid has tried flying off the top of the stairs thinking he is Superman knows what I mean. What to do? Start young to teach coping with reality by using the following praises even with toddlers.

  • Careful
  • Safe
  • Not safe.
  • A toy.
  • Make believe.
  • Danger.
  • No Danger.
  • Real.
  • Not real.

Children will still believe in magic, won’t fully get it for a while, but the foundation for thinking more critically has been laid.

STAY STRONG

Anxiety disorders are high on the list of mental health problems and are apparently part of an inborn temperament trait–shy versus bold.  So if you have a scared kid, probably somewhere in the family are other scared and nervous ones. I plan to write more about Taming Anxiety, but for now, you might find this ebook of mine useful – the message and exercises are universal, but applied to Taming Test Anxiety.

An eBook about test anxiety, but with exercises to help all who struggle with anxiety.

An ebook about test anxiety, but with exercises to help all who struggle with anxiety.

For anxious parents, Parents Are People Too provides an Emotional Fitness Training Program that strengthens your ability to manage all sad, mad, and bad feelings. Remember, you don’t need a Kindle to read Amazon’s ebooks.  You can download them to your computer using these apps.

Practice kindness, share what you find useful, help me grow my blog and  sell my books. If you buy any of my books, reviews help me reach more people.

Kindness always circles back to bless you.

Katherine