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The Importance of Mission

parenting advice

You have goals for your children, for yourself, and for your family. Good for you. But not enough. Goals are about what you want, where you want to go. So more important questions  are:

  1. Do you have a personal mission?
  2. Do you have a family mission?
  3. Are you help your children develop personal missions?

Missions are about how you want to be as a person as you take your life’s journey. Having a thought about and defined mission gives focus to your life, makes decision making easier and wiser.

Missions are created by thinking about what matters. What the sages  and what those who study such things think is that the healthiest missions  are built on a foundation of kindness, caring, and sharing.

Which leads to this blog post’s Poster Coach.  Remember What Matters:


For a free digital download of this poster go to the EFTIstore.

When you are teaching your children to be kind, you are also teaching them to be #emotionally intelligent.


Parenting is hard work and the results not always clear immediately, practice patience is a must and that means patience with yourself as well as with others.

Be grateful for what you have been given, forgive yourself and others for failing to be perfect. No one is. Continue to practice kindness and your efforts  bring forward a more just world for all. You make a difference.

Most EFTI  posters posted on my blog can be obtained at the EFTI Store  Many are free.  Poster Coaches are printed up in color on letter size card stock and used to inspire, teach, remind you to practice #emotional_fitness exercises.

This blog post was inspired by this Word Perfect Daily Prompt.  Obstacle Course: Think about what you wanted to accomplish last week. Did you? What are the things that hold you back from doing everything you’d like to do?

Thank you for all you do and as always stay strong.



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on life’s wave to unknown ends —
seeking bits of zen.

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Time to take a break, find me time and family time.  Know what the experts have found when researching reliance or emotional fitness?  Here’s one thing known to work.

I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. Henry David Thoreau  Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/h/henry_david_thoreau.html#Iw7yIoy6rSt2kfVj.99

Stopping to smell the roses strengthens all.

Stay strong

Part of emotional fitness, what others call  Emotional Intelligence and something you want your kids to develop, comes from stepping into nature’s world.  Doing so with your children connects you both  to a wider world, provides important life lessons, as a well as  family and fun time.
Remember to share and care. Small acts, pushing a like button for example, matter and make a difference in someone’s life.
Thank you for all you do.


The best parenting advice? This week it was “Let Your Kids Be Free.” The weekend cometh; time to  plan Just Be Free Time for you and your kids.

Doug Savage cartoon to illustrate a Parents Are People Too and Emotional Fitness Training blog post

Stay strong

Part of emotional fitness, what others call  Emotional Intelligence and something you want your kids to develop, comes from thinking about what matters.  That starts with time to just be, to play or laugh if that is what you want, but also just to be.  Hopefully, that means watching the stars or sitting quietly in a tree you’ve climbed and letting your thoughts come and go.
Maybe you and your kids don’t live where they can be free in the outside world. But encouraging quiet time alone to be and to think or not to think, enriches and builds emotional strength.
Remember to share and care. Small acts, pushing a like button for example, matter and make a difference in someone’s life.
Thank you for all you do.
PS. A big Thank you to Doug Savage for letting me share his cartoons.  His sharing and caring, the laughs he sends out into the universe make a big difference in many lives.


With some time off for most of us, I wanted to remind you to take me-time, laugh and play time, and alone time for you and for your kids. Ilene Dillon said it best.

Laugh and reblog on www.parents-are-people-too.com

Hi Ho, Hi Ho! It’s Off To Play We Go!

By: Ilene Dillon

Raising my children in the 70′s and early 80′s, it was possible in the area where we lived for them to do play on their own. My daughter rode her pony in the woods (starting at age 10), my son rode his bike (via the back streets, which I taught him how to do) to the next town over to his school when he was in second grade. Much like the experiences I had on my grandparent’s farm when I was growing up, they had the opportunity to meet the world without the watchful or protective eye of an adult on them. This happens more when you are a single parent (which I was), yet I made a point of helping them to have solitary time away from me whenever I could.

Children NEED this type of time in order to connect with their deeper self. To me, it’s a tragedy that most children, today, never have such an opportunity. When kids can spend time alone, they develop the ability, little by little, to care for themselves, develop confidence, make decisions and grow to respect their own decisions. Allowing our children to venture into the neighborhood is not so much about “age” as it is about:

  • what kind of neighborhood we’re in
  • what kind of relationship we have with others in our neighborhood
  • how much decision-making responsibility we have allowed to our child previously
  • whether there are trustworthy older children to watch out for the younger ones
  • if our child wants to venture out alone.

This will be different ages for different children. Parents are best to assess these different factors, and then check in with their own gut. My children, at the age of 13, had grown to the point that they did some international travel on their own. My daughter spent a week in London, England, doing a homestay with a family with children her age. My son traveled for a weekend to Kangaroo Island (from Adelaide) Australia on an organized trip, while I taught a workshop in Adelaide. They both did beautifully. They came back to me feeling strong and empowered.

Thirteen is one of the two ages (4 and 13) during which children explore “power.” It was perfect for them. Start small, allow bigger as your trust–and theirs–develops. I always told my children I would trust them to the point they demonstrated to me they could not handle it. Then, we would go back to an earlier level of freedom, and they could work their way up once again!

Yesterday, my son sent me a video of my granddaughters, ages 7 and 5, touring me through their new Forest Service cabin in the Sierra mountains. “Grammy,” said the older girl, “the best thing about this place is that we can go out into the trees and be alone!” Her father commented that it was a great thing not to have a parent around every single second. She was grinning at the thought.

About The Author

Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W., M.F.T., and L.C.S.W. If raising a child “takes a village,” how many light workers does it take to create global human transformation? Ilene Dillon, M.S.W., is such a worker, dedicating herself for over 40 years as a Transpersonal Psychotherapist and Coach, intent on helping people–and our world–to achieve transformation.

Parents Are People Too Thoughts

I was lucky enough to grow up in a small town were I was free to roam.  My kids were also raised in a similar town.  So agree with Ilene that children of today have lost something.
One suggestion to provide at least a bit of alone time is to have quiet and alone  home time.  I recently throw a sheet over our dining room table and had my three year old grandson take some private and alone time in his “Cave.”  He loved it. Didn’t want to come out.

Stay strong

Make it a goal for the coming  week-end to figure out somewhere your family can go and safely take some alone-time. Remember to share and care. Thank you for all you do and thank Ilene for her wise thoughts.