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Think About Your Legacy

Bradberry quote

As grandparents who married late and may not be around as our three grandsons enter adulthood, we are creating legacy boxes, Something you might think of doing if you are a grandparent. And yes, a bit egocentric, but who does not want to be remembered and to pass a bit of  hard learned wisdom to our children, grandchildren, and perhaps great-grandchildren.   Sharing knowledge has been one of my life’s mission and a legacy box lets  me keep sharing.

What goes in a legacy box? Ours hold photos, childish letters, family history and genealogy, bits of jewelry, some wooden toys, a few my poster coaches, copies of my books, lots of other books, and  a personalized letter from each of us to our grandchildren.

An example, one of my favorite novels remains T.H. White’s Once and Future King. Many children’s stories about King Arthur have spun off from this as well as the musical Camelot and the movie Excalibur – another favorite of mine.  The book is a satire written as Hitler was coming to power and much loved by many people. Reading it as a teen changed my thoughts about life and people. I am hoping  my grandchildren will  think more critically if and when they read it.

Not a grandparent? Better yet. Being a parent focuses most people on hopes and dreams for their children. The life you live whether planned or not forms part of your legacy. The best way to control at least some of your legacy is to know your mission and to insure it focuses on what matters. As the sages and researchers make clear what matters is treating others as you want to be treated.

A warning, however.  A part of our inner child as well as all real live children want what they want and need help learning what matters. Children until the age of eight or nine, need to learn good manners, how to practice kindness and forgiveness, as well as how to deal with not getting what they want. Takes a bit of tough love and best when leavened with  soft love.

Then the process of letting go can begin so by their teens, children are ready to navigate the real world.

Not clear about missions and SMART goals?  Consider getting my ebook Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals. Costs less than a latte and every sale keeps me going.


Practice kindness by liking or sharing what  you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you. I know that when someone does this, it keeps me going.

Stay strong, it takes some effort for parenting is both pleasure and pain, effortless and a struggle.


Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Disclaimer two: Take all advice even mine, carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.