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Struggles your learning style? Not alone!

Today’s Daily Prompt asked what is your learning style. Mine is mega struggle to write right. Drives grammarians apples and shames me.

Strongest drive? To edit another'sgrammar. Not #emotionalintelligence.

Obsessed grammarians and power players seek perfection when good enough is good enough.

Power seekers who think they might be losing, loosing, lossing, lost, loose an argument often resort to correcting the other person’s grammar. Pressed to write without having to use lose or loose, I would write:

Power seekers who thing they might be going down to defeat in an agrument often resort to correcting hte other person’s spelling or grammar.

And yes, I misspelled three words in that one sentence. Spelling check caught two. Did you catch the third?  I did not at first and that is part of the problem. I don’t see mistakes even if I know the right way to spell a work.

Being corrected when you cannot do better creates shame. I know for I have a learning disability called dysgraphia. As I discussed in this Emotional Fitness Training blog post Alone with shame.  all the criticism hurled at me about how I wrote created mega shameful feelings for me as I was growing up.  

Although brighter than the average bear, I struggle as I write to spell correctly, punctuate correctly, use proper tenses, pronouns, and all the other stuff that the grammarians expect for a writer.  I  also cannot do math.  That is a learning disability called dyscalculia. But as I did not aspire to be a math whiz that has not been so big a burden.  

I did not discover I had a learning disability until long after the psychologists figured out some of us have brain glitches. My to bright, happy sons both became depressed in the early years of their education.  The school wasn’t worried but we were and paid to have an educational psychologist test them.  Not only did he describe their learning styles perfectly, he described mine also. Live and hopefully learn. Lifted some shame from my shoulders.  Of course, I wasn’t happy this particular combination of genes had been passed down the line, but I was and remain grateful more is known now about how people learn and how to help those who struggle at school to struggle less. 

I was also lucky to have more teachers who valued my content  more than the  many errors. And yes, there was the one who kept me in during recess to re-write spelling lists.  Made no difference in my spelling, but made her feel she was doing her job. sigh.


If you have a child struggling in school, particularly as third grade is approaching, think about the possibility of a learning disability. Think very hard about this particularly if you child is ahead of many other children in other developmental tasks, was happy until started in school or pressured to learn to read or write.

Start to educate yourself about how children learn and how your child learns. Do not let fear of labeling, shrinks, or psychologists hold you back. Vision and hearing are routinely tested, learning brain clitches are not but should be.  You would not expect a blind or deaf child to learn without help, no one would. A child who stuggles to learn should be helped also.  

Psychologists have identified what they call multiple “intelligences.”   Children and adults learn best when what they are learning matches their particular learning style, their talents, and what adults applaud.

Moreover, many studies are finding what is called emotional intelligence outweighs intellectual intelligence when it comes to living the good life. Teaching a child good manners, to be kind, to share and care promotes emotional intelligence and is as much a learned ability as an inherited one.  Manners matter.

MEGA WARNING: Much pressure is being placed on parents and children to teach reading and math readiness. Not a problem for the brightest of kids who have no learning challenges. Not so good for those who struggle to learn one thing or another.  Moreover, most of us do well in some areas, not so well in others. 


The media and the schools can easily make us feel the only thing that matters is doing well academically.  And yes, that is important in today’s world.  But it is not the end all or be all of life. Far from it.  Visit my Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises . Learn them for you, and teach them to your children. Easily practiced each one was specifically designed to improve  emotional intelligence.  

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DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIAIf you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are. Thanks for your understanding and reading my work.