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PLAY DATES, NOT JUST FOR KIDS

I love swimming, but think just getting to an indoor pool and doing some aqua-zing would be play enough for me.  Younger and single, then maybe an Adult Swim Play Date would appeal.

parenting advice about adult play dates

Here’s my challenge. Schedule at least three adult play dates next.  Make two about just for you playing; and the third playing with an old friend or finding new ones. Just do it, please. Lots of stuff people say  we can “Just do” cannot be done by all or even most of us. .  But scheduling some adult play dates, if you can’t just do that, your life is out of control; reorder your priorities, maybe even think about counseling or therapy.

Many of the fun activities suggested by parenting gurus to do with your child, e can be done with your inner child alone.  Some  make  good ideas for adult play dates.

You will find such tips at by subscribing to Jean Tracy’s Kidsdiscuss.com and receive her 80 Fun Activities to Share with Your Kids free.  or go to this blog post on Inspired to Action for 101 fun activities to do with your child.

For more tips visit my Pinterest Board Fun, Crafts, and Laughs.stay strong

Stay strong

Finding time for adult play is  a challenge in today’s over-worked, too high expectation world, and particularly hard for parents.  Please share in the comments on this blog post how you  have managed to get in some adult play dates. Your idea sharing will help others.

Too stressed to play? Get my Parents Are People Too: An Emotional Fitness Training Program for Parents and if that doesn’t help think about therapy. Life should have many play dates. 

Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA.  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. Dysgraphia is a not well known learning disability and means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are.  If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere.  If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.

PLAY TOGETHER, STAY TOGETHER

A blog post pointing you to a test about what makes a happy family. If you don’t have time to take the test, see below for the short answer and my thoughts. 

Here’s the short answer. “… what do happy families do right? Happy families adapt. They talk—a lot. They go out and play. And they make the decision to keep working on their family. In the end, this may be the most enduring lesson of all. What’s the biggest secret to a happy family? Trying.”

Parenting advice about being a happier family

Remember all such tests are generalizations.  I find them useful to make me think.  I took the test and probably did better than most, but still got a few wrong.

For example: I think when teaching money management via an allowance, parents need to have kids set some aside to save and some aside for charity.  The correct answer was let the kids learn on their own.  Good when some ground work has been laid, but that ground work needs laying. Or at least that is my not so humble opinion.

Parent tips

Tip number one:  The article makes the point that kids do not want to spend more time with parents as much as they want parents to be less stressed and tired.  Blame our too fast past society and too many demands on parents.  But you can take some control of your life and work to stress less.

Tip number two:  Not mentioned in the article, but related to the need to stress less.  Start early to teach your children to de-stress.  Here is a quick and easy tip. Take breathing and laughing breaks and take them as a family.  Two or three calming breaths, done holding hands in a circle and then followed by a go-round of practicing laughter  and ending with a “Yes cheer” takes only a minute and eases stress for every one.

Tip number three: Too busy to laugh, then you are too busy. Reorder your priorities. Your kids will keep growing and not finding time to laugh and play with them will become a big regret when they flee the nest.

Tip number four: A plug for my eBook Parents Are People Too, An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents.  Being a foster parent made me realize I had to take care of my tired and stressed feelings if I was going to expect the troubled teenagers living with me to take care of their feelings.  That was the start of my interest in Emotional Fitness and the founding of my company Emotional Fitness Training.

Here’s what one reviewer said about my book: “I’m a grandparent now and care for my grandchildren off and on. Negative feelings try to corner me when I am caring for my grandchildren. I read the first edition of Parents Are People Too years ago. I am delighted it has been revised and published in Kindle form and equally delighted for this opportunity to praise it. Levine’s Emotional Fitness Programs are practical, easy to practice and they work if you work them.”

Stay strong

Life is a struggle and more so in our over-worked age.  Add trying to raise healthy, happy kids, to working outside the home and the stress doubles. For your sake, the sake of your children, and the world as a whole make sure your priorities are to live now, to spend happy time with your children, to nurture your own happiness needs and to always make time for laughter and play.

For more tips about how to have fun with your child subscribe to Jean Tracy’s Kidsdiscuss.com and receive her 80 Fun Activities to Share with Your Kids free. 

Remember, if you like this post comment or share. If you don’t like it, tell me why. Your opinion, as well as your kindness, matters a great deal to me.

Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA.  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. Dysgraphia is a not well-known learning disability and means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are.  If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere.  If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.

GET PLAYFUL

A Parenting Tip Poster to Encourage you to Play.

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STAY STRONG

Life is a struggle, relationships hard, raising good kids in today’s world harder than ever.  We get far too serious, far to stressed, and playing seems far too frivolous. Not so.

For more tips visit my Pinterest Board Fun, Crafts, and Laughs.

Too stressed to play? Get my Parents Are People Too: An Emotional Fitness Training Program for Parents.

For more tips about how to have fun with your child subscribe to Jean Tracy’s Kidsdiscuss.com and receive her 80 Fun Activities to Share with Your Kids free. 

Remember, if you like this post comment or share. If you don’t like it, tell me why. Your opinion, as well as your kindness, matters a great deal to me.

Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA.  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. Dysgraphia is a not well known learning disability and means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are.  If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere.  If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.

THE NEXT GREAT THING BLOG HOP

I’ve been tagged. Now it is my turn to tag some of you.  Here is what this blog hop is all about.

There are the books everyone has heard about: Twilight, Hunger Games, and Fifty Shades of Gray. But what about all those books written by people you’ve never heard of? Some of them are treasures, just waiting to be found, and that’s what this blog hop is all about: the books you might not have heard about, but that you might end up loving.

The Next Big Thing Blog Hop interviews authors and shares their books and coming attractions.

It is  like a game of tag. One author posts and tags other authors who link back to their website the next week and tag new authors. If you follow the blog hop long enough, you’re bound to find some books you’ll love! Maybe you’ll even discover a book that ends up being the next big thing.

I was tagged by Jean Tracy. She and I connected about a year ago. She is generous in her praise of me, but compared to her efforts, I am a Lady in Waiting and she is a Queen.  She is an encyclopedia of information and shares it in an easy to read format on her Parent Skills blog  You can learn more about her proposed book by reading her post for The Next Greatest Thing Blog Hop

Jean was tagged by Dr. Par Donahue. You can learn more about his books, Messengers in Denim, and his next release,Tools for Raising Kids of Character on his website.  A family doctor, he worked when doctors made house calls.

Besides tagging people, The Next Big Thing Blog Hop includes ten questions to help you learn more about an author’s present work or work in progress. Here is my  interview with a little info about my work in progress:

1. What is the working title of your new book?  The Art Taking  Control of Your  Mad, Sad, and Bad  Feelings: An Emotional Fitness Training®  Program.

2. Where did the idea come from for the book? Two sources: First, my professional training and career as a mental health professional. Second, the fourteen years I stopped being a mental health professional and became a special need foster parent. Very little of my professional training helped me at first. I had been trained in talk therapy, which didn’t work with our foster children who were all teens and in trouble with the law. What did work was a behavioral approach combined with the talk therapy, but to make that work, I had to learn to handle my negative feelings appropriately. Emotional Fitness Training® was born and first described in my book Parents Are People Too, An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents. My main fame is as a parent advisor, but everyone needs emotional fitness.  We all know anger, sadness, guilt, shame, despair, hatred; feelings that seek to oven  the book is for everyone.

3. What genre does your book fall under? Self-help, Fitness Training, Health

4. Which actors would you choose to play your characters in a movie rendition?

The movie would probably be the re-telling of our years as foster parents.  Those years are  described in my first book, When Good Kids Do Bad Things. Here is what we looked like then.

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The book would be told in flashback from the viewpoint our aging selves. May to add some spice perhaps a former foster child is blaming us for all his life’s failures and is sending threatening letters from prison.  We are in the process of trying to defuse his anger, when we are notified by the police he has broken out of jail and is planning on killing us.  Does he? Or do we heal his hatred?  Don’t know yet.

Who should play our parts? David has a definite Paul Newman look.  I have always wanted to be as spunky and daring as Katherine Hepburn type.

And here is how we look now:

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me now

5. What is the one sentence synopsis of your book? You can own and control feelings, or be owned and controlled by them; this book’s emotional fitness program teaches and strengthens the skills needed to control all bad, mad, and sad feelings.

6. Will your book be self-published or represented by an agency? It will be published by MetaPlume Corporation.

7. How long did it take you to write the first draft of your manuscript? It has been written in bits and pieces since we became foster parents in 1974.  Publication will begin with various stand-alone short eBooks exploring the concepts and exercises of Emotional Fitness Training such as Self-Soothing, Missions and Goals, Creating and Using a Personal Feeling Thermometer and Acting Wisely. These will then become chapters in a complete title.

The short eBooks will start to become available in March 2013, and will be available in over 90 countries via Amazon Kindle, Smashwords, Barnes & Noble, Apple iBookstore and Kobo. The publication of the entire book is planned for September, 2013 and it will retail via the same sales channels and in addition will be available in paperback.

8. What other books would you compare this story to within your genre?

In theory it is probably closest to Jerome Kagan or Daniel Goleman’s idea. As a more readable book, Cheaper by the Dozen leaps to my mind or Steve Martin’s movie, Parenthood. If the story for a movie, more like Jonathan Kellerman’s thrillers.

9. Who or What inspired you to write this book? My foster children and my life with them. At the same time, I also was inspired by the parents and youth I worked with when I directed a family based mental health crisis team located in one of the poorest community districts of New York City – Mott Haven.

10. What else about your book might pique the reader’s interest? The idea of being in control of all negative feelings. Each chapter provides easy to practice exercises that almost immediately reduce the power of negative feelings and the quality of your life improves instantly.

THOSE I AM TAGGING OFFICIALLY

Fiona Gatt of MetaPlume.  I picked her to serve as the model editor, coach, and mentor for wannabe authors.  She is a wife, mother, writer, artist, Alpaca Raiser, a Wonder Woman.  I try her patience lots, but she never tries mine and is always a source of support and hope.  Metaplume has a Facebook page, so visit there and be sure to like it.

Quinn and Jon, a  husband and wife team, who moved to Nicaragua seeking not just adventure, but a way to improve our world.  Their story needs to be told in a book and this is my way of prodding them to start that book now. In addition to their blog Life Out of the Box, they are on Facebook.

Fellow Social Worker and Parent Advisor Ray Ericson. Ray did a guest blog on my site.  He is a tough/soft love groovy guy, who meets my criteria of being on everyone’s side, not just the kids, and knowing being tough matters as much as being loving.  His blog, Just Ask Ray offers solutions that have been tested in his thirry years of practice.

Suzanne Joblonski – Advocate for all troubled children and harassed parents.   I first got to know Suzanne as a parent advocate when we both worked at the Mental Health Association of New York.  As with so many, she is an amazing woman, a survivor of many life blows who remains dedicated to helping others.  She needs to write a book, not just blog.  I hope this pushes her in that direction. Her blog Crossing One River to Another is about her move from New York City to New Jersey, but is most active on Facebook.

Dorian Scott Cole – Writer, film producer, mentor to many. I met Dorian on an the Post Modern Therapists’ E-mail list when I first started Emotional Fitness Training.  He saw the value of my efforts and published asked me to publish an  article in his   Eventually we lost touch, but earlier this year, we found each other again.  He blogs at The Visual Writer.  His main love now is filming and his current project is filming and the Visual Writer is full of information about how to write a script. You can also find him on Facebook,

FINALLY A BLOG ROLE:   I have been remiss in crafting a blog role.  Being on the blog hop has inspired me to create a page dedicated to the people, blogs, and group.  Not quite the traditional blog hop,  good enough one. Now I am posting this as a page on my Emotional Fitness Training Blog; it wider and more seeping in scope than parenting. You can link to it here.