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GRATEFUL I AM NOT A TURKEY

A humorous lead in, but also a reminder that being human probably is something to be grateful for.  Being a well-loved cat might be the best if you are into being petted, fed, and fully accepted even if aloof, cranky, or spitting mad.  A dog might do better for some.  As a child I wanted to be a deer living quietly in the forest.

In the long run, however, I am grateful I am human, and  grateful for all I have been given.  Some have so little gratitude is hard come by.

I am mostly grateful for having a loving family and that means a family that knows the power of  forgiveness and that it lies in the small gestures.

I had to shop a bit this morning, I am bringing a vegetable dish to the Thanksgiving Dinner another grandmother is cooking and needed to buy carrots.

As always I was bantering with the cashier.  She was dressed up a bit under her required Safeway jacket, so I assumed she was heading out to a festive dinner when she got off work.  Wrong.

“Only my mother lives near here,” she said, ” and we don’t get along, we barely talk for which I am grateful.”

Broke my heart.  And as I have been told by some, I probably was feeling more pain then she felt.  She seemed at peace.  But I wish I could have invited her to a Thanksgiving dinner with me.

Saddens me when I see family not talking to each other, not able to spend some time together. Saddens me more when I see how common that has become.

So I am grateful my kids and I have managed to keep our love going through some very tough times.

parent advice

You are the one who teaches a child forgiveness as a tool for keeping the love flowing.  But if you watch your children, most are born with the ability to forgive.  A two or three year old released from time out, rushing to his punisher’s arms for a hug.  Gradually, unless parents take care the easy  ability to forgive fades.

Keeping up a relationship means practicing  lots of forgiveness. Two of the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises  are about forgiveness.  Exercise Ten  is forgiving another; Exercise Eleven is  forgiving yourself.  Forgiveness lies in realizing we are all flawed, all human, all doing our best with what we have been given, all needing forgiveness.

Forgiveness also means  acting in the small ways described by Buscaglia.  The small things keep  love alive.

Stay strong

Life can be hurtful, and those we love often fail and hurt us the most.  When we can forgive, we will find we have much to be grateful for.  For those of you who are enjoying dinner with family, you are blessed, be very grateful.  I am.

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Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA. If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are. Thanks for your understanding and reading my work.

TAKE A BREAK – GIVE MORE

Between Sandy and the spreading hostilities in the Middle East, caring and sharing has become even more important. Devote this weekend to giving more.

Sign language for give: Starting wth closed fists pointing at each others held at your chest, push outward, openomg palms and hold ing upward.

Hard times are making it difficult for many to take a break.  When all you own has been destroyed, when you live in fear for your life, the caring of others matters in moving forward. If that is what you are living with as much as you would like to take a break, it will not be easy, but is even more important if you want to move forward.

At the same time, if you can read this, you and your children are in a position to practice the kindness involved in sharing and caring even if living in the midst of trauma or war.  Don’t neglect your self, but also do what you can to help others.

November 13th was world wide practice kindness day.  I posted on it, but as many remarked, kindness needs to be practiced every day and I would add throughout the day. This post is about practicing and teaching kindness.

PARENTING ADVICE ABOUT KINDNESS

Tip one: Use Family Time to teach children how to practice kindness.  Give to the charity boxes at places like MacDonalds and have young children put the coins in.  Say, “I am grateful we are lucky enough to be able to give to others.”

Tip  two: By the time your kids are entering school, teach them tithing.  For every gift you give someone,  donate 10% of the gift’s cost to charity.  The receiver  can pick the charity.

As suggested above for many  children putting the money in a charity coin box is fun and re-enforces  giving.

For an added learning bonus, think of holding back 10% of every gift and depositing it in a savings account to be given to the child when he or she is twenty one.

Tip three:  Use holidays to emphasize giving back.  Use the time between Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanuka  Kwanzaa  and the New Year to give.

Tip four: Give directly by reaching out personally with a helping hand. Visit the elderly, train service dogs, exercise dogs at a shelter.  Take the kids with you once you deem them old enough to help. Volunteer your family and your kids to work in a food kitchen regularly.

Tip five: Teach and practice good manners. Saying “Thank you,” smiling, being respectful, offering to help are all ways to practice kindness throughout the day.

Tip six:  Give out of the box. Giving to your own is easiest, but world peace is built by giving to your enemies or those you think unworthy of your kindness.

Tip seven: Use traumatic and bad world events for teaching  both giving and gratitude.  Give to the Red Cross, give blood and take your mature enough kids with you at least once.

Tip ten: If you did not see the Reblog  about how Sandy’s victims are giving to each other on my EFTI blog, go there now and read it. Read at least one of the stories to your children and discuss with them how they can help some of Sandy’s victims or others that are living truamatic times.

Tip eleven: Do not forget long standing needs of smaller not for profit organizations. Sandy has affected the USA, but past hurricanes have damaged other poorer countries. Haiti still needs help. The Haiti Initiative is a not for profit organization started by a young woman I know personally. She not only raises money, but goes and lives with the impoverished.

The wars in the Middle East are on-going and sadly too many want to see Israel and the Jews destroyed while repressive regimes stay in power.

One of my former students left a plush life in New York and went to Israel as a young bride. She not only raised for children, but started and developed the Big Brothers and Big Sisters of Israel in an effort to help the young of that area stay strong.

Tip eight: Teach that being kind brings its over reward.   Even if rejected  or accepted hostility kindness matters. Doing the right thing is an important path to feeling good about yourself.

Tip nine: Print up a poster similar to this, frame it and post it were you and your children will see it everyday.

Tip twelve: As you give practice gratitude.  You will be strengthening you and yours by practicing two of the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises.

STAY STRONG

I assume if you are reading this, no matter how hard you have it, you also have a great deal to be grateful for.  Being grateful means saying thanking you, but also putting your gratitude into acts of kindness.  I hope this post has given you a few idea about how to do that while taking your break.

Here is my thank you or welcome to the my blog  gift – a quick introduction to The Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises.

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Another related to this subject s available at Amazon  How to Hold a Successful Family Meeting.

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DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA. If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are. Thanks for your understanding and reading my work.

As always thank you for following me.  If you know someone else who will benefit from my thoughts, forward this to them.  Liking, commenting, and sharing are other ways you can help me stay strong and spread some ideas others might find helpful.

As I tell myself a thousand times a day, stay strong, and give lots of love, have lots of luck.