An edited re-blog. I remain on holiday schedule; I also know many of your might have missed this one; family meetings are an important parenting tool.
The image is from the She Knows Blog and comes with the following paragraphs:
You can lose sight of overarching goals if you don’t remind yourself of them regularly. By setting a regular family meeting, you’ll be able to get everyone together to talk about upcoming activities and events and to evaluate them in relation to the family goals.
Family meetings work best when they have a clear agenda. Prioritizing and planning activities should be a consistent agenda item,” says Dr. John Duffy, a clinical psychologist and author of The Available Parent: Radical Optimism for Raising Teens and Tweens. The more involvement and buy-in you have from your kids, the more success you’ll experience as a family.
You are, whether you know it or not, a family meeting family; every family is. A meeting is any get together involving two people and at least one with an agenda. Putting your three-year old to bed? That is a meeting. When you share the same agenda all is more likely to go. As most parents know agendas are not always shared. When agenda’s differ at the end of these little every day meetings one person feels, while two or three people don’t.
That is called life. You cannot please everyone all the time. As was heard in the baseball movie, Bull Durham, “Some days you win, some days you lose and some days it rains.” The trick is to accept bad feelings and stay in the game doing your best. Happens to every family member, every day; happens in most family meetings as well as other everyday meetings also.
The little meetings go lots better if the family meets regularly as a team to handle business and does so successfully. Such meetings reduce parental stress. Moreover, such meetings prepare you and your children for handling life’s other meetings, but most importantly teach many important life lessons, including how to deal with not getting you way as well as strategies for getting your way.
Parenting Advice for conducting successful family meetings
Tip one: Family meetings are a potent and powerful tool for parents, but only if successful and that is not always easily accomplished. Here are the success tips I developed. Many are drawn from the business world. Parents are leaders, managers, CEOs; the successful in that group I dub Power Leaders and I have learned much from them.
Tip two: The best place to start if you have not been holding regular family meetings is to start with some Family Fun Meetings. Here is one idea: have a craft event that re-cycle’s the end of the year greeting cards in one of three ways: Make gift tags for next year by cutting parts of the cards, punching a hole for the tie. Have each family member make a scrap-book page out of some of the cards. Have each family member contribute to a Memory collage that to be or put in a Family Memories Scrap book.
Tip Three: For more tips my How To Hold Successful Family Meetings is now available in print.
If you buy it, please share a review. And yes, there are lots of other resources about family meetings on the web, some free. I think mine combines the best of knowledge from clinical and business gurus, but also in-the-trench parents including the many wonderful parent advocates I worked with. You know who you are. Thank you all.
If you do not hold regular family meetings, make doing so one of your New Years Resolution. Even one family fun event meeting a month, with a bit of business is better than none.
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