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Remember Wendy Whiner as played by Gilda Ratner on Saturday Night Live? We loved to laugh at her, but a whining child imakes us want to whine.  What to do?  Start with this poem and then read the  article accompanying it.

How to stop whining

Jean Tracy, MSS is one of my Parenting Gurus. She offers lots of free advice that is on target and presented with lots of  tips for applying her advice. This article is one.  Go here to read it.  After reading the article, subscribe to her Free Newsletter and Receive 80 Fun Activities to Share with Your Kids

I really liked her suggestion in this article to discuss the whining at a time a child is not whining. She suggests starting that conversation by talking about a time you felt sorry for yourself and then talking about  activities that have helped you. Finally she suggests teaching:

The Daydream Activity:

1. Tell her, “When you’re daydreaming and feeling sad, become aware of self-pity.”
2. Physically shake your head “No!” to the daydream.
3. Yell, “STOP” to the thoughts.
4. Come back the present. Notice your body and the things around you.
5. Reconnect with what’s happening now and focus on something good.

Advise her to use this activity as often as she needs

Parenting tips

These Three Emotional  Fitness Training tips enhance Jean Tracy’s Day Dream Activity.

The first: Teach your child what matters. And that starts with rating pain. When your toddler is crying uncontrollable after a bump and cannot even get up to come to you, go to the child pick her up offer comfort, and  say “Big Pain”; when toddler is coming to you for comfort call the pain “Medium  Pain”; when obviously a bit hurt but not needing comfort say ” Small Pain.”  You can do this even before the child starts talking.

Talk directly to school aged and teen about what matters. For example, words that hurt create big pains, but  physical hurts are usually worse.

Words that hurt often lead to what Albert Ellis calls  “awfulizing” or making a mountain out of a mole hill. Whiners do this a lot.  Better than whining about someone else’s hurtful words teach your child to rate the truth of the words, to look for a lesson, to ignore sch words when obviously spoken to bully or hurt.

The  second tip: teach your child how to  calm negative self talk with EFT’s Sloganeering. This builds on the Day Dream Activity.


Help your child develop some slogans and to use them when ever tempted to whine. Teach her to bring helpful slogans  into play after the word “Poof” in the Day Dream Activity.

The third: Strengthen all your child’s Self Soothing Skills.    Buy my  eBook Self-soothing to Create Calm” now.

It costs less than an ice cream cone  Not only will you  help your child, but as you learn the exercises you will strengthen your emotional fitness.

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These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.