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Parents Need Me-time

A QUOTE FOR THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERS

Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.  Ovid

With all there is to do, and all the pressure to do it all, Me-time, particularly for parents becomes harder and harder to schedule. You and only you can make it a priority for you.  Boost your motivation to do so, by remembering you care best for others when you  care for yourself. .

TODAY’S EMOTIONAL FITNESS ADVICE FOR PARENTS

Even on vacation or off for a weekend on your own, make a Me-time date.  I usually take my daily me-time in the late evening.  I am a night owl, but at times when I cannot sleep, I also declare some me time. and hop out of bed to do my thing.

Although on a road trip, my weekend and days of rest are  approaching and I will take a Shabbat break.  No matter what your beliefs about a higher power, a day devoted to a simpler life is strengthening.  To me that means thinking about what matters, not spending money, not working on any  commercial ventures,  not using my beloved computer, turning off the cell phone,  connecting with friends, nature, and my version of G-d.

Create a day of rest for your family.  Yours and their  life will improve. Set aside one day a week for no (or minimal) travel, no turning on the tv, radio, or computer,  turning off your cell phone. going only where you can walk.  Try it you might like it.  And yes, that might be a bit extreme, so adjust it to your and your family’s comfort zone.  Some families observe an evening break, others an hours me time to wind down for bed-time. Experiment until you find what works for you.

The earlier you start these alone time strategies the better. Teenagers are harder to woo into such times.  And yes, one of my ongoing cranks is how much harder it is on today’s parents to find Me-time. .  David and I were both at home and it was hard enough, but during those years as foster parents we did not hold other jobs.   So if you are working at more than being a parent, more then ever you will need some Me-time.   Start small and spread.  I

I have rushed to get this post up, so forgive any errors.  Peace be yours.

For all you do thank you.

IMAGE BY ME: Wild flowers in a field allowed to rest.

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HOLD A FAMILY MEETING THIS WEEKEND

A formal family meeting is a regularly scheduled meeting for the purpose of attending to family business, with rules, an agenda, and a decision-making process. Here are quick tips for running a successful one:

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The best place to start if you have not been holding regular family meetings is to start with some Family Fun Meetings.   Plan one for the coming weekend, label it a Family Fun Event; then spend a few minutes deciding on next week’s Family Fun Event. Do not, however,  forget to also plan your me-time.

For more tips my  How To Hold Successful Family Meetings is now available in print.  Starting Friday, June 21st, however, it is free as an eBook. See the sidebar.  Offer ends  midnight of  Tuesday, June 25th.

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If you buy it, please share a review.  And yes, there are lots of other resources about family meetings on the web, some free.  I think mine combines the best of knowledge from clinical and business gurus, but also in-the-trench parents including the many  wonderful parent advocates I worked with.

STAY STRONG

As I tell myself a thousand times a day,  do not weaken, give lots of love to others and to yourself, be grateful, practice kindness, laugh and play,  live now, give and seek forgiveness, and always hope  the blessing of the forces beyond our control are with you and those you love.

Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA.  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are.  If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere.  If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.

FIVE REASONS TO HOLD FAMILY MEETINGS

Hate meetings?  Then you probably go to  many meetings that are poorly run.  Not helpful.  Family meetings, properly run, are major parenting tools. 
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A formal family meeting is a regularly scheduled meeting for the purpose of attending to family business, with rules, an agenda, and a decision-making process.   Most experts agree successful family meetings are one of the more useful tools for raising competent, coopertive, and confident children.  Here are five reasons to start holding such meetings now.

Reason one: Family meetings save time. Instead of one-by-one announcements regarding schedules, rule up dates  news, all the family gets the same message at the same time.

Reason two: Family meetings teach important life skills including  how to deal with attending meetings in general, how to take turns, listen, communicate, and problem solve.

Reason three: Family meetings improve cooperation. Children are more likely to cooperate when included in the problem solving process.

Reason four: Family meetings create stronger family bonds particularly when a fun event is part of the meeting.

Reason five: Family meetings provide parents with the opportunity to model respect for self and others, as well as to enforce values.

But only if the meetings are successful. So here is my gift to you.  My eBook, How to Hold a Successful Family Meeting will be available for this coming week. Mark your calendars,  and see the side bar for details.

STAY STRONG

If you do not hold regular family meetings, start with getting the family together to plan a fun event.

As I tell myself a thousand times a day,  do not weaken, hug your chilren, smile more than you frown, laugh as often as you can, forgive when laughter is not possible, be grateful, and always hope  the blessing of the forces beyond our control are with you and those you love.

Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA.  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are.  If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere.  If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.

ARE YOU A FAMILY MEETING FAMILY?

Re-posting most of my original Family Meeting Post.  Still playing catch up from the holidays and know your are too.   This series ends this week. Hope it has been helpful.

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Of course you are, a family meeting family.  That is if you all live in the same house. Every family living together meets several times everyday.

A meeting is any get together involving two people and at least one with an agenda.  Putting your three-year old to bed? That is a meeting.  When you share the same agenda all goes well.  Lucky you.  Not always the case. More often, at the end of these little every day meetings one person feels, while  two or three people don’t.

That is called life.  You cannot please everyone all the time.  As was heard in the baseball movie, Bull Durham, “Some days you win, some days you lose and some days it rains.”  The trick is to accept bad feelings and stay in the game doing your best. Happens to every family member, every day; happens in most family meetings as well as other everyday meetings also.

The little meetings go lots better if the family meets regularly as a team to handle business and does so successfully.  Such meetings reduce parental  stress.  Moreover, such meetings prepare you and your children for handling life’s other meetings, but most importantly teach many important life lessons, including how to deal with not getting you way as well as strategies for getting your way.

Parenting Advice for conducting successful family meetings

Tip one:   Family meetings are a potent and powerful tool for parents, but only if successful and that is not always easily accomplished.  Here are the success tips I developed. Many are drawn from the business world.  Parents are leaders, managers, CEOs; the successful in that group I dub Power Leaders and I have learned much from them.

Tip two: The best place to start if you have not been holding regular family meetings is to start with some Family Fun Meetings.   Here is one idea:  have a craft event that recycles the end of the year greeting cards in one of three ways:  Make gift tags for next year by cutting parts of the cards, punching a hole for the tie.  Have each family member make a scrap-book page out of some of the cards.  Have each family member contribute to a Memory collage that to be or put in a Family Memories Scrap book.

Tip Three: For more tips my  How To Hold Successful Family Meetings is now available in print.

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If you buy it, please share a review.  And yes, there are lots of other resources about family meetings on the web, some free.  I think mine combines the best of knowledge from clinical and business gurus, but also in-the-trench parents including the many  wonderful parent advocates I worked with.  You know who you are. Thank you all.

STAY STRONG

If you do not hold regular family meetings, make doing so one of your New Years Resolution.  Even one family fun event meeting a month, with a bit of business is better than none.

THE USUAL STAYING STRONG HELP

First, here is my thank you gift if you have just started following me.   It is a free guide to the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises. These are easy to learn, easy to practice and helpful to anyone dealing with life’s stresses and every day problems.

My book  Parents Are People Too: An Emotional Fitness Program for parents details all the exercises needed to get and stay emotionally strong.  All my other  books can be found on my  Amazon’s Author Page.

You can also follow me on the When Good Kids Do Bad Things Facebook page. If you go there please take a moment to like it.

Finally, You might find my Emotional Fitness Training’s Pinterest site helpful. Both of my blog posts are pinned there, and I also share people’s information that I think for help you stay strong both as a parent and an individual. Take a peek by clicking here.

As I tell myself a thousand times a day,  do not weaken, give lots of love to others and to yourself, be grateful, practice kindness, live now, give and seek forgiveness, and always hope  the blessing of the forces beyond our control are with you and those you love.

Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA.  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are.  If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere.  If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.