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I am now on the border between the USA and Canada.  Both are countries where we are free to express ourselves, free from torture or death if we disagree with our leaders.  As you celebrate, discuss how bullies of all types want us to only agree with them.

Cheer freedom; cherish freedom.  As was declared at the founding of our country: “We hold these truths to be self-evident: All humans are created equal and endowed by their Creator with certain alienable meaning God given rights.”

Remember the truths our founding fathers valued so much: Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Take hope in that we, the people of the Unites States and Canada, were once bitter enemies and now we are allies and friends.

Do all you can do to protect those rights and for all you do, thank you.



The car is packed, we’re ready to go. Nebraska, Ohio, Wisconsin, Michigan, Ontario, New York here we come.


Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.  



A change of scene is usually a good break.  Most vacations are good break times. Occasionally, the planning is more fun then the trip.  Not when you can see good friends along the way and that is what we will be doing. Watch for pictures.

As usual for all you do to make the world better thank you.  You have made a big difference in my life.



A QUOTE FOR THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERSTake rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.  Ovid

A STAYING STRONG TIP: For those new to this blog, I am a Jew.  I converted after my marriage.  Observing the Shabbat has been a major blessing becoming a Jew bestowed on me.  No matter what your beliefs about a higher power, a day devoted to a simpler life is strengthening.  To me that means thinking about what matters, not spending money, not working on any  commercial ventures,  not using my beloved computer, turning off the cell phone,  connecting with friends, nature, my G-d.

I urge all parents to schedule a day of rest every week create your own version, your life will improve.

STAYING STRONG TIP ADDED VALUE:   Set aside one day a week for no (or minimal) travel, and no turning on the tv, radio, or computer and turning off your cell phone.  It saves gas, reduces your carbon footprint, might solve the energy crisis, stop the heating up of our planet. Try it you might like it.

If your life does not include a day of rest, think about instituting at least some hours of rest from the busy electronic life.  Do something with the family–a game night is a good way to start. Another possibility: a reading time where part of a novel gets read each night . When we were foster parents sitting down for dinner with no tv and no telephone  was mandatory five nights a week.   You didn’t have to eat, you didn’t have to talk, you had to be there, and be moderately polite.  One night was joke night, another our Shabbot.  Those were the only two with any structure.  We also had a family night out. Usually a fast food meal and a movie, but it could be bowling, ice-skating, a more special treat. We also had a get your own dinner night.  Finally, each parent had a designated weekly night out.

A final way we tried to get time for ourselves was a manditory quiet and in your room time.  Leave your room, make noise, or  call our names and, if  you were not  bleeding you were punished.  Most of our foster kids had sleep problems so watching tv–yes, each room had a small tv (no cable in those days) –listening to the radio or reading was allowed, but quiet had to prevail.

Most experts on staying healthy say keep the television out of the bedroom. We do now, but did not when we were foster parents. It was our nightly laugh time.  I credit Johnnie Carson’s monologues with keeping us sane.  Now I take out my hearing aid. David listens to the radio and I read or do puzzles.  What works

The earlier you start these ‘taking a break’ strategies the better. Teenagers are harder to woo into such times.  A movie once a month may be the best you can manage.  Still it will make a difference.  When I ran the mental health crisis teams we had a Family Fun night every week.  A snack type dinner, games, group talk.  It was one of the things that got teens to spend time with their parents and siblings. It relieved the parents from the stress of cooking dinner.  It was also one of the things most parents said was most helpful.

And yes, one of my ongoing cranks is how much harder it is on today’s parents to do these things.  David and I were both at home and it was hard enough, but it was during those years our only job.  So if you are working at more than being a parent, don’t guilt yourself if you can’t do as we did.  Do try to find some unconnected family time and the same for you.  Start small and spread.  Also if you have found ideas that get your family unconnected and spending quiet or play time together then share.  Also share if you’ve found a way to carve out some of the same for just you.

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Take Time for You

By and large, mothers and housewives are the only workers who do not have regular time off.  They are the great vacationless class. 

Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Her words still ring true, but now it is even harder for parents of either sex to take me-time.  Women’s Liberation  pushed for women to do men’s work and men to do woman’s work.  The goal was two-fold, a level playing field and choice, not more work for either group. Did not work, for now most women  work out of the home as well as in, and are in some ways more burdened than ever.  Men are also more burdened.  

Me-time is rare,  for all, but if you make an effort it can be arranged. Soon I will be signing off  all work for the weekend. That is one way I stay strong.  I use the time to take care of me and mine.   Start the same practice.  Turn off the electronic devices. Do something inspiring, something with family and friends, make time for laughter and play, to enjoy nature and time for you alone.

Start slow, but start.

PRACTICE KINDNESS:  Share this if you think another needs to be remind to take time to laugh and play.  Practicing kindness is a circle drawing all sorts of people into a better place.

Stay strong, I work at it every day, every hour and sometimes every minute.


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