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All parent advice stresses communication as an essential parenting tool.  Few mention the most important  rule.  It relates a bit to this cartoon.

Savage Chicken Cartoon

Parents finish children’s sentences too and just as incorrectly.

We think we are clear, we think we speak the same language, but communication is response.  If you are not getting the response you want from a child, you are not communicating.

Parenting thoughts ABOUT failing to communicate

If you don’t know how your child thinks you cannot communicate effectively. Piaget, one of the earliest and most thoughtful students of how children grow, identified four different levels of thought each child passes through on the way to adulthood.  Here is a  quick down and dirty summary about on the way a child’s thinking changes as he or she grows:

  1. Until language develops, the child absorbs information more by bodily movements, but is also learning language.
  2. Once language is developed, the child can think about things, but his or her thoughts are magical and driven mostly by the child’s feelings. If the child wakes up in a dark room and is scared, he or she will create one or another monster lurking somewhere in the room.
  3. This next stay develops when  toys no longer talk, minature people do not live in the television set,  and  myths like Santa Claus are  known to be made up. The child, however, cannot think clearly about many things, particularly abstract ideas.  This means the child cannot really think “If then” possibilities when it comes to solving problems.
  4. Adolescence brings with it the possibility to think broadly and in the “If then” mode.  This opens doors and window to a much wider world and allows both scientific thinking and magical thinking. However, judgement is often lacking as experience is limited.

PARENTING ADVICE About communication 

Tip one:  Always hold to the idea that communication is response.  

Tip two:  Tone and body language are as important as words; sometimes more important.

Tip three: Three quarters of communication is listening.


Parenting is difficult and often a struggle as you must know by now. All sorts of feelings surface.  Visit my Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises for more hints about staying strong. Visit the EFTI Store for Poster Coaches that will keep you strong. Many are free.

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DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIAIf you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are. Thanks for your understanding and reading my work.


All my books are available on Amazon, and readable on any tablet, laptop, Mac, PC, e-reader or Kindle device.

When Good Kids Do Bad Things. A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers
Parents Are People Too. An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents
Tame the Test Anxiety Monster
How to Hold A Successful Family Meeting

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Stay strong, stay emotionally fit and  stand strong against  the madness of our workaholic society.

A do nothing to do list

Image by thelastgeneralist.blogspot.com

I would never be happy with nothing to do, but that is me. For many the best me-time might well be lying in a hammock or on some sweet-smelling grass looking up a tree and just being.  I often did that as a child, but with a book by my side when restless me wanted to do something.


My usual Friday reminder  to give me-time, family and friend time, laugh and play time first  place on your do to list.  Run away from most other must do stuff. Moreover, make at least one day free from money and electronic connections. Doing so allows you to focus more on what matters as well as doing a bit to help Mother Nature stay cool.


This week’s free book  is about when Good Kids Run Away. Many do and most return home safely, sadly some do not.


It can be read on a Kindle or a computer using Amazon’s free reading apps. This book is based on a chapter from my  book ‘When Good Kids Do Bad Things – A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers‘.

If you know someone who might be helped my book, care and share.

Next weekend, Twelve Easy Emotional Exercises To Tame Mad, Bad, and Sad Feelings will be free.  For a sample go here:

The fourth book in my Emotional Fitness Series, Know Your Feelings – Become a Feeling Detective, An Emotional Fitness Training® Program will be released on Amazon this week.  Watch for  my mini book launch of this newest one on my Personal Facebook Page.


Remember taking care of you strengthens you to take care of others. Be kind and caring for others matters and also strengthens you.

For all you do, thank you.