Category Archives: Self Care

SHABBAT SHALOM


May you walk in peace and may the light of love shine in and through you, now and forever.

A QUOTE FOR THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERS

“Judaism is a religion of time aiming at the sanctification of time…The Sabbaths are our great cathedrals.”

                                                           Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel

Emotional fitness building TIP

No matter what your beliefs about a higher power, a day devoted to a simpler life is strengthening.  To me that means thinking about what matters, not spending money, not working on any  commercial ventures,  not using my beloved computer, turning off the cell phone,  connecting with friends, nature, my G-d.

Create your own version, your life will improve.   Try setting  aside one day a week for no (or minimal) travel;  no turning on the tv, radio, or computer and turning off your cell phone.  You will  save gas, reduce your carbon footprint, help solve the energy crisis, and stop the heating up of our planet. Try it you might like it.

PARENTING TIP

Force your kids to hold some time sacred.

STAYING STRONG

And yes, one of my ongoing cranks is how much harder it is on today’s parents to do these things.  David and I were both at home and it was hard enough, but it was during those years our only job.  We became foster parents in order to be at home.

So if you are working at more than being a parent, don’t guilt yourself if you can’t do as we did.  Do try to find some unconnected family time and the same for you.  Start small and spread.  Also if you have found ideas that get your family unconnected and spending quiet or play time together then share.  Also share if you’ve found a way to carve out some of the same for just you.

PRACTICE KINDNESS Share this post with others who might find it of value. Kindness gives to the giver as well as to the receiver.

Katherine

This post allines with this WordPress  DAILY PROMPT . My dream teacher in regards to this post would have been Rabbi Heschel.

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SHABBAT SHALOM


May you walk in peace and may the light of love shine in and through you, now and forever.

A QUOTE FOR THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERSTake rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.  Ovid

A STAYING STRONG TIP:  Observing the Shabbat has been a major blessing becoming a Jew (I am a convert) bestowed on me.  No matter what your beliefs about a higher power, a day devoted to a simpler life is strengthening.  To me that means thinking about what matters, not spending money, not working on any  commercial ventures,  not using my beloved computer, turning off the cell phone,  connecting with friends, nature, my G-d.

Create your own version, your life will improve and your children will be strengthened.

 Share this post with others who might find it of value. Kindness gives to the giver as well as to the receiver.

IMAGE BY: adinadesigns.com

Awe inspiring

This Emotional Fitness Exercise is for you. It soothes and calms while reminding you what matters#emotionalintelligence  #fitness

Think of all around you, above, you within you - know awe.

As with all Emotional Fitness Exercise, this one works best when done with total awareness. For more about being fully aware visit  Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.  You can get a free digital download of this or any other Emotional Fitness Poster Coach by going to EFTIstore.

TEACHING THIS TO YOUR CHILDREN

A teenager can learn the same way you learn – by reading the Poster Coach and practicing the exercise regularly.

Pre-teens and younger children can learn by first introducing them to nature and stating, how awesome it is to be part of the world.

STAY STRONG

Doing a full body stretch every once in a while also improves your emotional fitness and is equally important to teach your children. 

Thank you Daily Prompt for this one ; Daily Prompt: Twilight Zone  Ever have an experience that felt surreal, as though you’d been suddenly transported into the twilight zone, where time seemed to warp, perhaps slowing down or speeding up? Tell us all about it.

Happens to me when I practice the exercise described above.

As always thank you for practicing deliberate kindness and liking, commenting or sharing this post.

Katherine

FAILING TO COMMUNICATE

All parent advice stresses communication as an essential parenting tool.  Few mention the most important  rule.  It relates a bit to this cartoon.

Savage Chicken Cartoon

Parents finish children’s sentences too and just as incorrectly.

We think we are clear, we think we speak the same language, but communication is response.  If you are not getting the response you want from a child, you are not communicating.

Parenting thoughts ABOUT failing to communicate

If you don’t know how your child thinks you cannot communicate effectively. Piaget, one of the earliest and most thoughtful students of how children grow, identified four different levels of thought each child passes through on the way to adulthood.  Here is a  quick down and dirty summary about on the way a child’s thinking changes as he or she grows:

  1. Until language develops, the child absorbs information more by bodily movements, but is also learning language.
  2. Once language is developed, the child can think about things, but his or her thoughts are magical and driven mostly by the child’s feelings. If the child wakes up in a dark room and is scared, he or she will create one or another monster lurking somewhere in the room.
  3. This next stay develops when  toys no longer talk, minature people do not live in the television set,  and  myths like Santa Claus are  known to be made up. The child, however, cannot think clearly about many things, particularly abstract ideas.  This means the child cannot really think “If then” possibilities when it comes to solving problems.
  4. Adolescence brings with it the possibility to think broadly and in the “If then” mode.  This opens doors and window to a much wider world and allows both scientific thinking and magical thinking. However, judgement is often lacking as experience is limited.

PARENTING ADVICE About communication 

Tip one:  Always hold to the idea that communication is response.  

Tip two:  Tone and body language are as important as words; sometimes more important.

Tip three: Three quarters of communication is listening.

STAY STRONG

Parenting is difficult and often a struggle as you must know by now. All sorts of feelings surface.  Visit my Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises for more hints about staying strong. Visit the EFTI Store for Poster Coaches that will keep you strong. Many are free.

Remember that liking, commenting, or sharing is an act of social media kindness.  It strengthens you and helps me and others.  Maybe this will help some one laugh.

As always, thank you for your support, it means a great deal to me.

Katherine

DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIAIf you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are. Thanks for your understanding and reading my work.

FURTHER PARENT ADVICE CAN BE FOUND IN MY BOOKS

All my books are available on Amazon, and readable on any tablet, laptop, Mac, PC, e-reader or Kindle device.

When Good Kids Do Bad Things. A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers
Parents Are People Too. An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents
Tame the Test Anxiety Monster
How to Hold A Successful Family Meeting

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