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7 TIPS FOR TEACHING YOUR FAITH TO A CHILD

Every parent wants their child to follow their faith whether atheist, Christian, Buddhist,Hindu, Judaism, Muslim, or all lesser known faiths. .

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Faith is a belief in unproved ideas or stories.  That they are unproved means they vary.  Here is one man’s story in response to a post of mine on Facebook.

Theism is a belief that a god that nobody knows what it looks like or it’s sex somehow after spending for ever and ever and ever quite happy with it’s own company decide it was lonely and wanted some distraction and decide to make the world and put beings on it, who it condemned to poverty disease and war, simply because it knew in advance how they would use their ” free will” to condemn themselves and oh what fun, since then ” god” has never been bored.

His post was in response to a post making fun of atheism.  My only quarrel with atheism is that it is usually either/or thinking.  Either there is a God or Gods or there not.  Such thinking is limiting, and  sees  religion as all bad; this creates divisiveness. Emotional fitness seeks “yes/and” thinking as a better way most of the time. Yes, atheists might be right and one or many religions might be right.

He is one who has turned from religion, but his post speaks to his faith and that is what guides his behavior. His post sparked this post.  Had  I responded with  a Facebook post,  it would have been about my faith. Here is how I might have  responded:

We are all guided by the  beliefs we hold most strongly and have  the most faith in.   Here are mine as opposed to yours.

I do not know how the world came to be, but I  do not believe nothing came from nothing.

I know a spirit of love is part of creation. So I place my faith in  a loving creator who like most parents wants a child to become all he or she can be.  A wise creator and parent can only do so much to accomplish that and spends much time watching and hoping.

 I believe one of the Creator’s greatest gifts is making space for growth and development not just as individuals, but as a species. 

We are doing that and the world is better for many than it was even a hundred years ago. But some cling to tribal or national or personal ways and many of those do evil trying to spread those ways or accrue wealth and power.

Perhaps, the Creator  still monitors our progress, likes the direction with are moving of progress and is still  hopeful;  perhaps, not.  Perhaps, the Creator either no longer cares or is just watching us destroy ourselves. 

The Torah which I see as full of cautionary tales, says some must be destroyed to allow others to survive and that the Creator stays active in that decision. Miracles are exceptions to the expected and I see miracles. They are one of the foundations of my faith.  Torah also says even when very few follow the path of righteousness the world will be saved.  The primary path of righteousness is not linked to one faith; all with wisdom agree that path  is treating others as you want to be treated.

I believe our job as individuals is to grow and to as the Judiasm says, “Repair the Universe.”  I am grateful the Creator is patient and forgiving.

What I have just written is the way I have dealt with the main problems  people face in creating their faith.  That is also fairly close to my parent’s beliefs, My father was an atheist and my mother would be called hopefully spiritual. Neither was happy when I became a religious observer, but their love went on.

Most of those I know who no longer practice their parents’ religion complain about three things.

  1. The beliefs are not practiced by those who hold them.  This was the reason I started doubting Christianity.
  2. The beliefs seem at odds with reality, particularly science.
  3. Suffering was not adequately explained. Also a major part of my need to turn to religion.

Each of these needs to be addressed for a child’s faith to mirror its parent’s faith. Moreover, no matter how wise or loving the parents, children often go another way. My parents were more than loving and very wise.  So here are some quick tips, but only quick tips for this is a topic that must be explored in-depth.

Tip one:  As always, you must model the behavior you seek from your children.  Many surround their children with those of similar belief.  If you do that make sure those people model the behavior also. The ones I met at the church I joined as a teen in the long run did not seem very Christian.

Tip two: Did the Jewish, Christian and Muslim God create the world in six days?  Scientific minds agree our time is limited to our world. Six days in our world are most likely a drop of sand in the universe’s hour glass. Despite the popularity of Steven Hawkin’s views, many reputable phycisists believe in a Creator.  Read their thoughts. Here’s one: Gerald Schroeder. He is a physicist and holds a double PhD.

Tip three:  As suffering is personal and the first thing we all ask is “Why me?”, our faith must provide an acceptable answer to “Why.”  When bad things happen most of us feel punished for being stupid, careless, foolish or sinful.  The power of this personalizing is reflected in almost every religious practice whether human sacrifice, selling of indulgences, or acts of contrition.

My personal belief about bad things accepts that some are the result of personal carelessness or foolishness.  And yes, some might be punishment for sins, but what helps me accept suffering is looking for a lesson. Sometimes the lesson is a personal one; often the lesson is acceptance that bad things happen whether one is good or bad and often despite all efforts to being a victim of bad.  Sometimes I find comfort in randomness. The Jewish God promised the survival of the Jewish people, not of individuals.

Tip four: Teach you children to be law-abiding to an extent.  Example? Red lights. The younger the child, the  more abiding by a red light is necessary and  “Because it is the law.”

By the age of ten or so, going  against the red light can be a matter of “This law is not always reasonable,  you need to know when it is okay to break it.”

A teen can be drawn into deeper conversations beginning perhaps with looking at the Noahide laws,  revolutions, and protests of unfair laws. Good discussions for dinner time or family meetings.

This WordPress prompt about breaking a law, lead to a discussion of when people broke laws.  You might find reading some of the blog posts interesting to think about.

Tip five: Expose yourself and your children to other faiths including atheism.  All organized religions promote the Golden rule.  Point  that  out, but also point out that it means for some applying that rule only their family, their country, or their religion.  Even those religions approving child sacrifice were doing so in the hope that of earning special favor. Expose and discuss the good and bad of each.

Tip six: If you are observant in one or another religion, fight its bad theology. If you are an atheist, do not reject the good religion offers.If you are observant in a particular religion, root out bad theology. Example: The idea that a loving Creator  says to kill those of other faiths or to force conversion.

Tip seven: More may be needed.  All of this is much easier said than done.  So do the best you can and make sure you have lots of support.When you have tried the above and it has not worked, more is neededThe more might be more study on your part, more support, or in some situations therapy for you or a child you love.

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Understanding the power of fear

Have a child who is a nervous Ned or a Fearful Fran?  Here is the segment of a course I taught to parents caring for what I called Challenging Children. The parents had been charged with abuse by NYCity’s Child Welfare Authorities.

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To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.
                                          Katherine Paterson, American children’s author

 Anxiety disorders, being controlled by fear or stress are among the most commonplace mental health disorders.  The lifetime prevalence for anxiety disorders as a whole in adults is about 25%; the frequency in children is unknown, but felt to be significantly underreported and under-diagnosed.

Fear is part of being human. Fears warn of the need to take care.  Intense fear leads to fleeing from the source of the fear—something the experts call “the flight response.”  Sometimes fear causes fainting which is the way the human body forces us to play dead.  It is the way many animals and birds respond when trapped by a larger predator.  If the larger animal is not hungry, but only playing or establishing dominance, playing dead is life-saving.  Birds often escape a cat’s claws this way.

The younger the child, the more likely s/he will not easily know which fears to take seriously and which to ignore.  During the early years, children easily believe in Santa Claus, the Big Bad Wolf, the Boogie Man, Wicked Witches and other creatures that the rest of us know are imaginary.  The fears, worries, and nerves that are part of an anxiety disorder are not tied to reality. One way to generally define an anxiety disorders is to think it is when the word FEAR means False Expectations Appearing Real.

This session reviews the major anxiety disorders including trauma reactions, generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, phobias, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

 This session will:

  1.  Discuss fear as a normal part of being human
  2. Review the causes of an anxiety disorder
  3. Introduce the major anxiety disorders
  4. Define  trauma
  5. Review how trauma changes the brain
  6. Discuss the various trauma disorders
  7. Define phobia, compulsion, and obsession;
  8. Review the two treatments most commonly recommended for reducing anxiety
  9. Review the with medications used to treat anxiety disorders
  10. Examine how parents/caregivers can help a child who worries too much

WHAT IS AN ANXIETY DISORDERThe simplest definition of an anxiety disorder remains this one:

F = False
E = Expectations
A = Appearing 
R = Real

In other words worrying to much about things that will mostly likely never happen.  As with all mental health disorders, the difference between normal fears and those leading to an anxiety disorder is the amount of disruption to the child’s ability to function.  A child or person who would rather walk up twenty flights of stairs then get on an elevator has a phobia; the fear interferes with normal functioning.

WHAT CAUSES ANXIETY DISORDERS

Normal fears get out of hand.  We are all genetically programmed to fear the unknown—very young children are often frightened by clowns because they look so different from known human faces.  Normal fears that get out of hand might originally start with a real event such as being bitten by a dog.

 Others teach us to be afraid.  Parents teach children to fear certain things and this can be carried too far.  For example, some parents teach children to be afraid of germs and a sensitive child might overly worried about dirt and getting sick.

 Our genes play a part.  Some children and some adults are born more nervous or fearful then others.  Shy children are one example.

 Traumatic events are often a cause.  Pain or fear that overwhelms combined with feeling powerless create what the mental health experts call trauma reactions.   Research is rapidly uncovering the role traumatic experiences play in anxiety disorders as well as a number of  other mental health disorders.

mental health labels related to fear and worry

Generalized Anxiety Disorder: Constant unrealistic worrying about anything and everything.  Extremely self conscious, tense, and may complain of physical discomforts related to tension such as head aches and stomach aches.  Seen by others as worrier, lacking in confidence, too sensitive.

Separation Anxiety Disorder:  Need parents to be present in order to feel safe.   Protest having to leave parents or have parents leave them.  Normal for babies to develop separation anxiety by eight months, not normal by the age of five or six although one in 25 children at that age has difficulty being apart from parents.  This may include problems falling asleep unless parents are in the room, clinging behaviors, and expressed fears a family member may die or something bad will happen to loved ones or self.  Usually reluctant to try new things.  Seen by others as shy, scaredy cats, or insecure.

Phobias: Excessive fears attached to specific situations or objects usually animals, dirt, heights, being closed in somewhere, fear others are judging them harshly, fear of school.   See Handouts for a list of the many phobias and the names they have been given by the mental health professionals.

Panic Disorder: A “panic attack” is caused by a fear that leads to a pounding heart beat, hyper-ventilation, dizziness, nausea, faintness and feeling that you are about to die.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): Obsessions are unwanted and repetitive and senseless thoughts; compulsions are unwanted behaviors such as excessive hand washing, counting behaviors, perfectionism.  Such children may take forever to complete a school assignment.

Trauma reactions:   A trauma is defined as any event that causes pain, leaves you feeling powerless, and overwhelmed with fear.  A more general definition is an unpleasant event that changes you forever. Sexual and physical abuse, witnessing violence, being in an accident, or being involved in a disaster such as 911 or a hurricane are examples of traumatic events.  Often left out when considering traumatic events are life threatening diseases that include the need for emergency hospitalization. Asthma can be particularly traumatizing to a child as can various forms of epilepsy.  Being challenged by a mental disorder in which one is subject to angry voices yelling at you inside your head that you think can traumatize.

Traumatic events change you forever.Traumatic events become life markers.  Some become chapters that stand out from the other events of our lives. “When the house burned down.”  “When I almost died in the car accident.”   Some traumas divide our lives in half.   Think of 9/11.  People traumatized by 9/11 think of their lives as before and after 9/11.  The larger and more painful the trauma, the more powerless the person feels to take any action, the more likely it is to divide your life into a before and after.

 Trauma changes your brain.  The experts know this by studies of the startle response.  When someone frightens you, you jump.   After a trauma, you jump more often and your jumpiness is more intense.  That is a sure sign that what happened was traumatic.  Most of the changes have to do with the release of chemicals in the brain.

Some chemicals make you more aware and more sensitive. 

  1. This means you are always on guard.  Because you are always aware of danger, you are also always ready to protect yourself by fleeing or fighting.
  2.  You flee by trying to avoid anything that might reawaken the pain of the trauma.  You don’t want to talk about it, think about, go to places that will remind you of it.
  3. You also flee by shutting down.
  4. You fight by yelling, hitting, attacking others.

Other chemicals strengthen you.   You need a burst of energy so you can fight or run.   

Still more chemicals numb you.  The numbing makes it possible to stand pain.   Both fighting and running can cause pain. Numbing chemicals are essential to survival and cause the following:

  1. A reaction called dissociation which means you go into a kind of trance state and feeling what is happening is not real.  You feel outside of your body as if you are looking at someone else.
  2. The numbing can shut down your memory, so you don’t remember everything that happened.  You may remember nothing or just parts of what happened.
  3. Numbing chemicals can also make you feel emotionally numb and dead.  This can lead to such behaviors as cutting, head banging, other self injurious behaviors and risk taken behaviors.
  4. The numbing chemicals may make what is happening seem unreal.  In fact, just as there may be no conscious memory of  the trauma, there may be no memory of the triggered behavior related to the trauma.   This leads to trance like states that make the person seem spaced out or  creates the appearance of someone with two personalities.

These  chemical changes in brain’s chemical cause the brain splits.  Part of brain is ready to pounce on anything that might create hurt or pain, while another part of it is totally numb to that possibility.  This makes victims of trauma, particularly traumas such as rape or physical assault more likely to be re-traumatized.

The changes cause triggering.  The brain operates on memory.  Memories get stored according to the senses.  Parts of any memory is stored visually, other part be sound, another by smell and another by touch.  Each sense seems to have a different file.  When enough memories come together, the complete memory is recalled.   In the case of trauma, when enough of the memories come together to bring back the memory, the person feels and reacts as if the trauma was happening again.

To make matters worse,  in terms of trauma, the complete memory need not be unlocked.  A certain smell may cause a triggered reaction, but not bring back the full memory.  This means the  person may not know what caused the reaction.  This is crazy making for the person who experiences trauma triggering.  It also makes those who witness such behavior, think the person is crazy.  Not helpful.

Finally, The release of chemicals can cause an addiction like process.  The chemicals released These are also “feel good” chemicals.  The traumatized person, may find that engaging in some risk taking behaviors, other behaviors such as head banging or cutting; even scary movies can trigger a rush of feel good chemicals.  Such rushes are  called “adrenaline rushes.”

Because the body can produce only so many feel good chemicals at one time, when the body’s  chemical supply becomes depleted, the person  suffers a withdrawal similar to coming down off crack.  This explains the mood swings of many traumatized people.  At those times the person may uses substances or the stress of the chemical depletion can set off triggered behaviors.   Domestic or child abuse can be another result.

Trauma also changes beliefs: According to James Garbarino an expert on the impact of trauma in children and author of numerous books including “Raising Children in A Toxic Society”  or “Lost Boys.”

  1.  The belief your body is invulnerable and that you will not ever be seriously hurt or die.
  2. The belief  your family, others who care for you, and the forces of society will keep you from harm.
  3. The belief  good people don’t do violence to those they love and you are one of those good people.

These are beliefs that help us survive life’s struggles.  Children, in particular, need such beliefs to develop normally.  Trauma destroys those beliefs and combined with the chemical impact of trauma can lead to what the experts are calling Complex or Developmental Trauma Disorders.

Complex Trauma Reaction or Developmental Trauma Reaction:  Not yet a DSM diagnosis, one or both of these will most likely be included in the next edition of the Diagnostic Statistical Manuel. (DSM).  These are reactions tied to on-going trauma.  Severe child abuse and neglect, severe asthma, painful medical conditions, or living in a “war-zone” neighborhood can all give rise to this disorder.  In children, ongoing trauma interferes with normal development.  Children who have experienced on going trauma show these symptoms:

  1.  Hyper-arousal which means a greater sensitivity to stress or threat
  2. Confusion or spacing out (dissociative symptoms) when stressed
  3. Inability to regulate emotions—numbed out reactions alternate with out of control emotions
  4. Under-controlled or over-controlled behaviors
  5. Self hatred, self blaming, self punishing, filled with shame
  6. May be clinging, overly dependent or risk taking
  7. Poor boundaries and a weak sense of what is appropriate behavior in terms of relationships are common and might lead to the child’s engaging in inappropriate sexual behaviors.

General treatment for fears and worry

Children and adolescents with anxiety disorders can benefit from a variety of treatments and services. Following an accurate diagnosis, possible treatments include:

  1. Cognitive-behavioral treatment, in which young people learn to deal with fears by modifying the ways they think and behave;
  2. Desensitization and relaxation techniques;
  3. Biofeedback (to control stress and muscle tension)
  4. Parent training
  5. Medication- Medications do not cure anxiety disorders, but can help lessen the symptoms.  See Handouts for more detailed discussion of medication.
  6. Alternative treatments such as EMDR, exorcisms, hypnosis.

The most effective treatments seem to combine a number of approaches.

 Trauma treatment  

Traumas reactions require a more intensive approach.  It used to be thought “getting it all out” by talking about what happened was the treatment of choice. This is now known “getting it out not to be particularly helpful particularly for children and teens. What seems to work are the following interventions:     

  1. Establishing safety
  2. Make safety plans
  3. Teach personal safety skills— those that promote self defense and teach meditation is best.
  4. Develop self soothing skills
  5. Teach emotional regulation skills
  6. Provide information about trauma reactions including treatment practices
  7. Talk about traumatic events as not being normal and that it is normal to have difficulty coping with such events.
  8. Help find a useful and life affirming explanation for why people do bad things, why bad things happen.
  9. Medication is sometimes useful in a number of ways.

WHAT CAN PARENTS DO TO HELP?

  1.  Get an accurate diagnosis.
  2. Find a treating clinician working with children and adolescents, who has used cognitive-behavioral, relaxation and behavioral approaches.
  3. Learn the skills being taught your child, practice them yourself and help your child practice them. Most often these will include:
  4. Use of rating scales or feeling thermometers
  5. Calming self talk.
  6. Relaxation skills such as Calming Breath; Centering; Scan, Tense, and Release; visualizing a safe place; using calming self talk.
  7. Having reminders of safety—pictures of parents helped a child with separation anxiety stay calm.
  8. Never belittle or shame your child for being fearful or anxious at the same time do not allow the fear to control the child.
  9. Encourage the child to face the fear, when child is fearful suggest various cognitive behavioral coping strategies noted above.
  10. Consider medication or alternative treatments if a trial of cognitive-behavioral treatment does not help.  Be wary, however of alternative treatments that promise a quick cure or cost lots of money.
  11. Find support for self.

Quotes for dealing better with fear and worry

 I am not afraid for I am learning to sail my ship.
                                                                              Louisa Mae Alcott, Author
 Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them. 
                                                                                     Brendan Francis, Poet
Fear has a large shadow, but he himself is small. 
                                                                                     Ruth Gendler, Author
Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends. 
                                                                                  Shirley Maclaine,  Actress
To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom. 
                                                                            Bertrand Russell, Philosopher
 I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.
                                                                                          Mark Twain,  Humorist

STAYING STRONG

 Are you good at using meditation to help you stay calm?  The calmer you are the more you help calm a child’s fears.  Try learning EFTI’s One Minute Meditation.  

Following the Golden Rule matters most.

Most EFTI  posters posted on my blog can be obtained at the EFTI Store  Many are free.  Poster Coaches are printed up in color on letter size card stock and used to inspire, teach, remind you to practice #emotional_fitness exercises.

You might also be helped by the exercises found in my book Self-soothing, Create Calm in your Life.  It costs less than a happy meal and has more benefits for you and your child.

Thank you for all you do, your support, please continue to like, comment, or share these posts.

Katherine

DAILY pROMPT RESPONSE

If you were one part human, two parts something else — another animal, a plant, an inanimate object — what would the other two parts be? My answer? I would like the skin of a Rhinoceros so small hurts would not reach my heart.

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How to help kids get calm

Meditation is the path to calm. Right? Definitely. If you are a bit hyper, it doesn’t seem to work.  Are you ADHD?

A quick test of ADHD

Don’t like labels. Understood, but what would we do without the ability to file something away or know what we mean when we use certain words.  That’s the gift of a label used properly.

Discovering, as I did, “I am hyper” make a big difference in my life. I understood myself better. That is what the experts call self-awareness and it is a key#EmotionalIntelligence skill.

Moreover, admit it;  you love the little tests on the social media that help you define you.  Recently this test was all over the internet:  Are you an introvert or an extravert? 

Even this old lady found value in this little test; my results were a bit mixed.  I am anxious in social situations like cocktail parties and become introverted; but if I feel I have something to give someone, I am extroverted.  All tests apply only partly to all.  

Meanwhile back to the subject which is helping kids get and stay calm.  

Parenting ADVICE AND tip

I raised the idea of ADHD so if your kid tends toward being a Fidgety Phil, you have been warned. You will have to be more patient and have lower expectations when it comes to helping your child find calmness through meditation. Still it can be done.

Calming begins with controlled breathing, what I call Right Breath.   Right Breath  is a major self-soothing exercise. Adults and kids need to learn to watch their breathing and  use it to stay calm.

This great  You Tube animated explanation called  “4-7-8 Breathing Exercise”  works for both adults and children.

Thank you GoZen.com. You are a great resource for helping parents teach calm to their children.  Although you target anxious kids, your exercises work for all kids and all adults.

Parenting Tip One: Right breathing can be taught to kids  as soon as language is acquired, but you can start teaching it even earlier by lying down and holding  a baby or toddler on your stomach while you breathe calmly. Quite often the child will start breathing in rhythm with you. Might not always happen, but is a start.

Parenting Tip Two: Once a child has mastered sipping on a straw and blowing bubbles, teaching right breath can be done by connecting breathing in to taking a big slow sip on a straw, and then slowly breathing out.

Parenting Tip Three: Sometimes when first learning Right Breath, you or a child can hyper ventilate and get a bit dizzy. That usually happens because  the person is breathing too quickly. One way to avoid is to breathe normally in between your efforts to learn Right Breath.

STAYING STRONG

Parenting is hard work and the results not always clear immediately, practicing patience is a must and that means patience with yourself as well as with your child, particularly when teaching a new behavior.  Are you good at using meditation to help you stay calm?  If not, is it because you are  also hyper?    If so try this:

Following the Golden Rule matters most.

Most EFTI  posters posted on my blog can be obtained at the EFTI Store  Many are free.  Poster Coaches are printed up in color on letter size card stock and used to inspire, teach, remind you to practice #emotional_fitness exercises.

You might also be helped by the exercises found in my book Self-soothing, Create Calm in your Life.  It costs less than a happy meal and has more benefits for you and your child.

Thank you for all you do, your support by liking, commenting, and sharing keeps me going.

Katherine

DAILY pROMPT RESPONSE

While walking on the beach you stumble on a valuable object buried in the sand — say, a piece of jewelry or an envelope full of cash. What do you do with it? Under what circumstances would you keep it?

Assuming there is not owner ID on the item, the law says you must turn such items into the local police station and if no one claims it after a certain amount of time it belongs to you.  Otherwise you are stealing.

Staying emotionally fit means behaving in accordance with your personal honor code, which is you are like most people probably wavers on this one, but in the long run does what is right. What’s that? Abiding by the law, particularly if it is reasonable as this one is.

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Life interrupt-is

The behaviorists claim that anger is the interruption of a response sequence. Life as a parent means constant interruption.  #parenting 

Becoming a parent means being interupted even in the privacy of the bathroom.

Parenting ADVICE AND tips

 Most parents handle the constant interruption of their response sequences with skill.  Here are a few of the tips many have learned to use go stay calm.

Tip one: Remember who is the adult. Not always easy, but you are the one charged with being the grown-up.

Tip two: Remember the kid is not out to get you, but is doing what kids do.

Tip three:  Detox from electronic interrupt-is.  Take the phone off the hook, shut down your cell phone, turn off your computer.

Tip four: Use calming self-talk.  “Now is not forever” is a healthy slogan to repeat and repeat and repeat.

Tip five: Hone your self-soothing skills.  EFT’s One Minute Meditation or the OMM is a quick and effective self-soothing exercise.

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STAYING STRONG

Parenting is hard work and the results not always clear immediately, practice patience is a must and that means patience with yourself as well as with others. 

Be grateful for what you have been given, forgive yourself and others for failing to be perfect. No one is. Continue to practice kindness and your efforts  bring forward a more just world for all. You make a difference. 

Most EFTI  posters posted on my blog can be obtained at the EFTI Store  Many are free.  Poster Coaches are printed up in color on letter size card stock and used to inspire, teach, remind you to practice #emotional_fitness exercises.

This blog post was inspired by this Word Perfect Daily Prompt.  Obstacle Course: Think about what you wanted to accomplish last week. Did you? What are the things that hold you back from doing everything you’d like to do?

Thank you for all you do and as always stay strong.

Katherine

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