The Me Too movement offers a great opportunity To Strengthen youR AND YOUR FAMILY’S Emotional Intelligence
We are a society that has promoted the need to correct or prevent all negative feelings. Well intended but unrealistic. Hurt is part of life.
Moreover, false expectations or false fears create their own problem.Think about the result of trying to protect our children against sexual predators and telling them not to talk to strangers. Normal civility declined. Children’s fears increased.
What to do
Tip one: Stop forcing children to allow relatives and friends to kiss and hug without asking permission. Most child sexual abuse is perpetuated by relatives and close family friends.
Tip two: Teach private parts rules. Generally that means no touching without permission of breasts, genitals, and tush. Even parents and doctors need to ask permission and explain why they need to touch even when the child says “No”.
Tip three: Teach self-defense moves preferably Karate with a Peace DoJo.
Tip four: Teach assertiveness skills
Tip five: Foster civility. Teach good manners, practicing kindness and forgiveness. Model these with in all your actions both with strangers and with your children.
Tip six: Strengthen your family’s emotional fitness skills. Teach meditation skills early own. Go here for Daniel Goleman’s Breathing Buddies video. Learn, practice, and then teach Emotional Fitness Training’s Twelve Easy Exercies. Do so during family business meetings.
Thank you for all you do
Practice kindness by liking or sharing what you find of value on the internet. All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you. I know that when someone does this, it keeps me going.
Stay strong, it takes some effort for life can be a painful struggle.
Katherine
Links of Interest
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
Disclaimer one: Emotional Fitness Training is not therapy. Self-help programs are helpful, but limited. Often more is needed. That more can be coaching, support groups, therapy or medication. Experiment with each until you are living the life you want.
Disclaimer two: Take all advice even mine, carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.
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