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I am here and often feel like a Rambling Wreck for Aging Tech. Soon to be 83, slightly demented, but still laughing, able to write almost coherently, and very grateful.

Mega problems with my Emotional Fitness Training Blog. Sigh. WordPress not helping to straighten things out unless I pay for an update and premium blog. Cannot afford that, SOOOOooooo …. for now, all posts will start here. Hoping from here I can send them to the EFT Blog. We will see if that works out. Never wanted heaps of money, but a bit more would help. Enough is a blessing as the Irish say, and I do have enough to stay warm and eat all the cholate I want, so grateful.

I am working on my next book: “Thinking of Therapy, Think Carefully.” I will be posting chapters here and will be thankful for any comments or suggestions for improvement.

The Me Too Movement, Emotional Intelligence, And Your Child: Six Tips

The Me Too movement offers  a great opportunity To Strengthen youR AND YOUR FAMILY’S Emotional Intelligence

We are a society that has promoted the need to correct or prevent all negative feelings. Well intended but unrealistic.  Hurt is part of life.

Moreover, false expectations or false fears create their own problem.Think about the result of trying to protect our children against sexual predators and telling them not to talk to strangers. Normal civility declined.  Children’s fears increased.

What to do

Tip one: Stop forcing children to allow relatives and friends to kiss and hug without asking permission. Most child sexual abuse is perpetuated by relatives and close family friends.

Tip two: Teach private parts rules. Generally that means no touching without permission of breasts, genitals, and tush. Even parents and doctors need to ask permission and explain why they need to touch even when the child says “No”.

Tip three: Teach self-defense moves preferably Karate with a Peace DoJo.

Tip four: Teach assertiveness skills

Tip five: Foster civility. Teach good manners, practicing kindness and forgiveness. Model these with in all your actions both with strangers and with your children.

Tip six: Strengthen your family’s emotional fitness skills. Teach meditation skills early own. Go here for Daniel Goleman’s Breathing Buddies video. Learn, practice, and then teach Emotional Fitness Training’s Twelve Easy Exercies. Do so during family business meetings.

Thank you for all you do

Practice kindness by liking or sharing what  you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you. I know that when someone does this, it keeps me going.

Stay strong, it takes some effort for life can be a painful struggle.


Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Disclaimer two: Take all advice even mine, carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.


Back to school – without the anxiety


At the prospect of heading back to school, children should feel happy to be back with their friends again and look forward to learning new things – but what if anxiety about tests cripples any positives with schooling? If your child has suffered from test anxiety in the past, consider taking some time to understand what anxiety is and how you can help them overcome it, so that when testing time does come around, you and your child will be prepared.

The eBook ‘Tame the Test Anxiety (Teach A Child To)‘ will be free on Amazon on Friday 12th July until midnight on Wednesday 17th July. This excerpt should convince you of the reasons why you should take advantage of this offer and download a copy:

Children are very tuned to parental feelings. You may not think you are anxious, but every parent has some anxiety about a child’s school success. You need to take the time to learn and practice the exercises in this book before teaching them to your children. Doing so will have the bonus of improving your ability to be more a relaxed and confident parent, which is good for you and all of your family.

It doesn’t matter if you own an Amazon Kindle or not because Amazon provides free reading apps for any device. Click on the cover below to visit the Amazon page and get your free copy:



I am now on the border between the USA and Canada.  Both are countries where we are free to express ourselves, free from torture or death if we disagree with our leaders.  As you celebrate, discuss how bullies of all types want us to only agree with them.

Cheer freedom; cherish freedom.  As was declared at the founding of our country: “We hold these truths to be self-evident: All humans are created equal and endowed by their Creator with certain alienable meaning God given rights.”

Remember the truths our founding fathers valued so much: Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Take hope in that we, the people of the Unites States and Canada, were once bitter enemies and now we are allies and friends.

Do all you can do to protect those rights and for all you do, thank you.