Observing a Shabbat builds parents and childrens emotional strength

Word Press asks “What’s your favorite daily ritual?”   The Shabbat.  How is that daily? Thinking about it looking forward to it, preparing for it, savoring it.

The Lyrics

I gotta feeling that tonights gonna be a good night
That tonights gonna be a good night
That Shabbats gonna be a good, good night (4x)


Tonights the night, Lets Live it up
No Need for money, Lets save it up
Go out and dance it, Like oh my god
Jump off the Sofa, Turn TV off, off

I know that well have a ball
If we get down and go out and just lose it all
I feel stressed out, I wanna let it go
Lets go home and eat a huge matzo ball

Lets do it, lets do it, lets do it
Lets do it, lets do it, lets do it
Live it up

I gotta feeling that tonights gonna be a good night
That tonights gonna be a good night
That Shabbats gonna be a good, good night

Fill up my cup, mazaltov
Look at her lighting, Shell bless it up
Friends all around, Lets turn that frown
Shabbat each Friday and so well do it again

Here we come, Here we go, We got our challah
Easy come, easy go, you betta Holla! Holla!
Family Talk, Body Rock, Rock it dont stop
Round and round, up and down, around the clock

Oh what a feeling oh tonight was such a good night
Oh tonight was such a good night
On Shabbat I had a good, good night.
Gosh I cant believe I get to do this every Friday night.

THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERS

I am old enough to remember the ad that recommended “The pause that refreshes.”

Shabbat is that for observant Jews.  Observing the Shabbat is the fourth of the Ten Commandments.  I often think of how the value of Shabbat grows in proportion to the work requirements of the days. Jews could not demand work of employees  or in ancient time of slaves or animals on Shabbat. (Jews were required to set slaves free after seven years of servitude.  Many asked to remain slaves.)

Non-Jews are not expected to observe all Ten Commandments.  But if they observed the Seven Laws of Noah, each was  as valued by God as Jews who observed all The Ten Commandments plus  the other 613 laws Jews chose to obey and were chosen to obey (What the Chosen People is about).

Not a Jew? Here is what the God of my understanding expects of you as spelled out in the Noahic Laws:

  1. Don’t worship idols. Think money, things as well as graven images.
  2. Don’t  murder. Not  killing, for all have the right to defend themselves.
  3. Don’t steal.
  4. Don’t engage in sexually immoral behaviors.
  5. Don’t blasphemy.
  6. Don’t eat the flesh taken from an animal while it is still alive.
  7. Do  maintain fair and just courts.

Many see the Jewish God as a dark and gloomy one.  Many see all gods that way. I prefer to think whatever God exists is patiently waiting for humankind to commit to observing the Seven Laws of Moses and so bring peace on earth.  I think that God must weep at our behavior, but that hope and patience are stronger in that God than in mankind.

pARENTING tIP

Create a Shabbat Day for yourself and your family.  Minimally, set aside a lengthy period of time to turn off the world of work, buying, connecting electronically. Use that time to be with family, friends, and nature or other sources of beauty and inspiration. Turning off and tuning out parts of  the world will be hard at first, but the more you try, the easier it gets and in time leads to living the good life.

Stay Strong

Here is today’s Free Poster Coach.  It teaches “The Be With Beauty Exercise” which is a mini-Shabbat moment and an Easy Emotional Fitness Exercise. My mother taught starting me on this path  by always pointing out small bits of beauty as we went about the day.

Be with beauty emotionalfitness exercise.

To see how I turned this into an Easy Emotional Fitness Exercise  and to learn a bit more about improving your own emotional intelligence go here.  The more you can model managing your negative feelings, the more your children will learn to manage theirs.

As always thank you for all you do to Practice Kindness, a major emotional intelligence boosting practice. Liking, commenting, or sharing any social media you find helpful is one way to be kind. It may seem like a little, however, doing a little matters a lot.

Katherine

EFTI’s poster coaches are free digital downloads designed to  improve Emotional Intelligence. Best printed up in color on card stock. they can be posted almost anywhere.  Their intended audience? Anyone who wants to improve their emotional fitness or anyone else’s emotional intelligence.  Parents, teachers, therapists, coaches, fitness trainers, school guidance counselors, preachers, and non-preachers.

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3 responses to “Observing a Shabbat builds parents and childrens emotional strength

  1. Pingback: Just Another Day: Autism (Daily Prompt) | Understanding and Embracing Diversity

  2. The 10 commandements are Gods laws for humanity . The Sabbath started in the Garden of Eden. There were no Jews . He rested on the 7 day and hallowed it. Constantine changed Gods holy day, many Catholics and Protestants recognize this.

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