As a cranky old grannykat, my purring stops when I read glib advice and particularly from most celebrity parents. Bill Cosby is one exception for he keeps it real.
Have you every watched Wife Swap. True confession. I watch it every now and again. And yes, it pits the extremes against each other and is most likely scripted. Still watching it not only makes me laugh, but just as often makes me think about what matters.
Recently, I discovered Celebrity Wife Swap and found a show featuring not wives, but celebrity mothers: Melissa and Joan Rivers against Bristol and Willow Palin. I enjoyed both views. Go here to view the video. Hope you can watch, it is on Hulu which I have. The Palin boy – Tripp, was definitely out of control. Moreover, he loved it when Melissa put him on a behavior chart.
The River’s grandson Cooper was a model of a good kid, strictness and love does pay off; but he also yearned for a bit more fun with Grandmom and probably with Mom. I think Joan learned that when Palin forced her to play a bit. Let me know if you agree with my assessment.
At the same time, I did not like Joan’s ranting about Tripp’s out-of-wedlock birth, Her rant was not kind or generous which is the bedrock of Emotional Intelligence.
Those who follow me know I think the key to healthy parenting is balancing love and discipline. The second key involves understanding age and stage. Parent Effectiveness Training works great for teens, is too often misapplied to pre-schoolers and pre-teens. I think that is why we have so many entitled kids.
As Thomas Phelan notes one of the biggest mistakes parents make is thinking of children as miniature adults. The older the children the more we think of them as adults, but even teens lack adult judgement. So setting them free as Thomas Gordon of PET suggests works only as long as you are there as a safety net and do enforce rules pertaining to safety for all.
Tripp was an example of misapplied age and stage parenting advice. Lucky for him that his Mom and Aunt Willow were exposed to a different point of view.
See my links for the Four parent gurus I indorse: Jean Tracy, Jo Frost and Thomas Phelon for the pre-teen set and Thomas Gordon for teens.
Thank you for all you do. I am particularly grateful to those who practice internet kindness by liking, rating, commenting, or sharing my posts.
As usual I went astray from the question and did my own thing. I’d like to be a butterfly following at least five of the top celebrity parents. Celebrity Wife Swap has let me do this from my rocking chair.
This Blog Post’s Free Poster Coach
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The Bill Cosby Poster Coach provides a laugh and something to think about: two of the Daily 12 Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.
LINKS OF INTEREST
- Thomas Phelan at One, Two, Three Magic (123magic.com)
- Jo Frost, Super Nanny (jofrost.com)
- Thomas Gordon Parent Effectiveness Training (gordontraining.com)
- Jean Tracy at Kids Discuss (kidsdiscuss.com)
- Katherine G. Levine Parents Are People Too (amazon.com)
- The EFTIstore (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)