THE LAW OF EXPECTATION stated BY A DOG TRAINER
or a toy. The owner apprehensively tries to take the bone away,
but their dog responds by possessively guarding the toy and may
even run off with it.
gives it up without even thinking about responding in a possessive
manner. And the owner is left with their mouth gaping open,
followed by the often-heard surprise remark (so well-known to
professional dog trainers) “Why doesn’t he do that for me?”
Even better than humans are. And they will react in a manner that
is consistent with how you expect them to act. Thus: Adam’s Law of
dog will react accordingly–then he will. (Assuming you’re using
the right techniques).
instantly know you’re not someone to be respected. And if you’re
not someone to be respected, then your dog will not bond with you,
listen to you or want to please you.
If you find the idea of treating your children like a dog, think about this: Dogs are estimated to have the same IQ as a three-year old child. In my book, a dog’s #Emotionalintelligence far exceeds that of most adults.
How to put this into play with your children? A few tips.
Tip one: Do stop thinking your children are fragile. Honor their strengths. Expect them to deal with life’s rougher stuff. Abuse not, but coddle not.
Tip two: Squash your fears and anxiety. Start by practicing this Emotional Fitness Exercise. When treating your child like a loving mother or father dog, make Strong Body and Soft Face.
The above is available as a free digital download at the EFTIStore.
Tip Three: As mother and father dogs know, play is as important as discipline. For dogs and children, playing is learning. For human kids, playing with Mom and Dad both bonds and teaches. Play lots.
This post relates a bit to today’s WordPress Daily Prompt: Never Gonna Give You Up You. We know *you* are vice-free, dear Daily Post reader. But, or perhaps we should say, “butt,” others around you and in your life are riddled with vices: they smoke; they eat too much celery; they hog the covers; they can’t keep their hands out of the office candy bowl. Which vice or bad habit can you simply not abide in others?
What can’t I abide in others? Cigar smoking comes to mind for it gives me a headache. But my newest angst comes from bicyclists addicted to speeding without regard to others on shared hiking paths.
As I am totally deaf in one ear, and partially in the other ear, I never hear a speeding bicyclist approaching until they are right behind me. I am waiting for the day I get knocked down and out. No, I don’t want that to happen, so I stay mostly on hiking trails were bikes are not allowed and often end up walking on the grass, not the path.
Just decided, I am going to ask for a safety vest like the construction guys and gals wear, but with the words DEAF printed in large letters on the back.
Parenting remains one of life’s hardest jobs. Moreover, the rewards are often long-delayed. Keeping calm when all about you including your kids are stepping on your last nerve is often impossible. However, learning and practicing j”Soft Face and Strong Body will make the impossible nearly possible some of the time.
Finally, Thank you for all you do. I am particularly grateful to those who practice internet kindness by liking, rating, commenting, or sharing my posts.
LINKS OF INTEREST
- Self-soothing to Create Calm in Your Life (amazon.com)
- 12 Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (amazon.com)