This #parentadvice blog post was inspired by this Daily Prompt: Interplanet asking you to design your own planet. Mine: Doggie World.
Mother and father dogs know punishment is a necessary teaching tool, Mother dogs start the process. Watch a mother dog with her pups and see how she does it.
The kindest parents treat their children like dogs, puppies that is. Here are five tips for parenting as the dogs do it.
Tip one: Stop thinking punishment is a dirty word. Proper punishment is an act of love
Tip two: Proper punishment involves being clear about rules; making the child clear about the rules; warning first – dogs growl, parents can do the same; making the punishment fit the crime; increasing the punishment until submission is obtained; re-establishing a loving relationship once submission is obtained.
Tip three: Notice that punishments begin as soon as the puppy is big enough to break rules. For a child that starts with toddlerhood. Keeping children safe and keeping others safe from being hurt teaches life’s major rules.
Tip four: Four rules matter most. Those rules:
- Stay safe.
- Respect self and others – no hurting unless in self-defense
- Respect property
- Respect reasonable laws.
Tip five: When the child has submitted to your request for proper behavior, make soft face and strong body to show your caring. You can get a free digital copy of the Strong Body and Soft Face Poster Coach at the EFTI Store.
Download it and post it where you will see it throughout the day. Every time you see the poster take a minute to practice Strong Body and Soft Face. take a calming breath, recall or plan an act of kindness; feel the calm strength this exercise creates in your being.
As always also practice patience for parenting is hard work and the results not always apparent immediately.
Be grateful for what you have been given, forgive yourself and others for failing to be all that is good as you continue to practice kindness and bring forward a more just world for all.
Thank you for all you do, particularly for liking or sharing EFTI’s ideas on the internet.
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Thank you for all you do and as always stay strong.
ARTICLES OF INTEREST
- How Dogs Punish (dogcare.dailypuppy.com)
- Post every day (dailypost.wordpress.com)
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- The EFTI Store (eftistore.com)