Daily Prompt: Intense! Surprised by the intensity of a feeling about something? Happened all the time as a parent and foster parent. but also just happened. Remember to meet intense emotions with kindness.
I have a table that has been in the family for years and years and years. Maybe 125 years. Before our move from the Bronx to Colorado this happened, I don’t even remember how.
Yes that is a broken leg. Couldn’t shoot the table, although darling David said toss it, but I ruled on that one and it has been stored in the garage for the past four years.
We are moving in a few weeks – downsizing for financial reasons and one way of saving money has been not to get a garage.
David said again “Toss it.”
Men are so unsentimental. I held out for getting the table fixed so it could be brought inside. Today the estimator came from a furniture restore company. Estimated cost just for attaching the leg – no refinishing – just put the leg back – almost $400. I burst into tears – surpising hubby, estimator, Punky the dog, and moi.
Estimator fled. Dog licked my tears. Husband stopped saying “Toss the table.”
And yes, the tears over table are just a symbol of one of the harder parts about aging and moving and letting go. And yes, I know how rich we are in the things that matter, still somethings about life will always hurt and no matter what the other gurus say, some hurts are not so easily tossed aside with calming breaths, positive self-talk, remembering what matters, and visualizing what you want.
I am still going to try to get the leg attached. I had figured it might cost as much as $100, and have saved that amount from my nickle and dimes over the past few months. Now I am going to try Craig’s list for a general handyman, not a “restorer.”
Hope you see the connection to parenting. Remember, I am a licensed therapist, I survived 14 years fostering I founded a company called Emotional Fitness Training, Inc.; I have written books about how to “Stay (emotionally) Strong; I practice what I preach and I end all correspondence with those words.
So hear this: Not being able to get the leg fixed on an old table turned me a blubbering fool. Moreover, it could have just as easily turned me into a mad dog, what some call a foul mouth b—-.
So when you have a melt-down for any reason. Be kind to yourself. The meltdown proves your humanity.
When another is having a melt down fur any reason, time to be kind to that person not matter age, stage, child, mother, father, sister, brother and yes, even the boss you are not to fond or your biggest enemy.
So that takes me to another poster coach about kindness.
You may have noticed I am blogging less here. Yes. Let me tell you some of the reasons why. My heart is with parents, but also with emotional fitness and right now, emotional fitness is in the lead for my attention and my affections. That said, even emotional fitness is not claiming all of my time right now. Here are some of the reasons why:
First: Moving home and office, in less than a week.
Second: Need to work smarter, not harder. Most of my readers come on board at the beginning of the week; so will always try to post Monday or Tuesday; but the other days will be more hit or miss.
That said if you want more of me, try my Facebook or Pinterest persona.
Third change: Although, I will continue to write and put out books; right now my heart is with my EFTI Poster Coaches. So much of what I read about emotional intelligence offers little in terms of practical applications. Mostly what are offered are expensive workshops or training. Not helpful to most of us. Those not on the fast track, need easier paths to Staying Strong.
Not sure what a poster coach is or how to use it. You are not alone.
Here is a comment by Jean Tracy of Kids Discuss (she is a major guru when it comes to teaching social skills to children: ”I appreciate how your Kindness Poster shares so many important social skills. It would look great on many fridges as a reminder to family members.”
What works for kids also works for adults. Poster coaches encourage practice of one of the Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. Most focus on Thinking About What Matters. Some try to provide you with a little laugh. Here are other ideas for using them.
- Frame and hang at home, in classrooms or office
- Add to bulletin boards
- Use as workshop handouts
- Use for note book covers
- Use as rewards
- Give as gifts
Enough said for now. I need to get this posted.
Stay strong, I am trying and as usual thank you for sharing and caring.
P.S. This post relates in a small way to this Word Press Daily Prompt: Tell us about a favorite character from film, theater, or literature, with whom you’d like to have a heart-to-heart. What would you talk about?