We all have dreams. Some become nightmares, others come true. I was looking for another song when I found this.
Have you read the lyrics? Here they are:I dreamed a dream in time gone by When hope was high and life worth living, I dreamed that love would never die I prayed that God would be forgiving. Then I was young and unafraid, And dreams were made and used and wasted. There was no ransom to be paid; No song unsung, no wine untasted. But the tigers come at night With their voices soft as thunder As they tear your hopes apart And turn your dreams to shame. Still I dream he’d come to me; That we would live the years together, But there are dreams that cannot be, And there are storms we cannot weather. I had a dream my life would be So different from this hell I’m living. So different now from what it seemed. Now life has killed the dream I dreamed.
These English lyrics are by Herbert Kretzmer, based on the original French libretto by Alain Boublil from the original French production of Les Miserables. They are sung by Fantine who ended her life as a prostitute. But we all have lost dreams and the lost dreams of parents infect their children.
Susan Boyle models all the reasons to keep trying. She is the poster child for never giving up. If you wept a bit at as she sang, it was probably remembering the dreams you’ve lost and we all have them.
PARENT ADVICE ABOUT DREAMS
This week’s free Ebook has been about your kids keeping company with kids you hate. My last post was about appearances. Susan Boyle is also the poster child for judging performance not appearance. But that is not my main message. Here is what I want you to think about.
You have dreams for your children, and they have dreams of their own. Dreams are about the future. Friends and first loves are in the now. For those moving into that harder world of broken dreams, the happiness of meeting needs not found in the family matter most. For parents, who know the hurt of lost dreams, their children’s future matters most.
Reality check: The future is not yours to predict or control. Stuff happens, sometimes bad stuff, sometimes good stuff. All who study such things agree, what matters is savoring the good and learning from the bad. Your job as a parent is to set your children free and then to comfort them when bad comes. It starts with learning to walk, falling, and getting up and trying again. The friendships and loves of adolescence are learning to walk with others.
Given that we cannot predict the future, what remains is hoping for the best and strengthening your emotional fitness. You can do that right now by going here to Be With Beauty.
Next week’s free eBook is When Good Kids Takes Risks. You can download it from Friday 7 June to Monday 11 June.
Thank you for caring, sharing, and all the other things you do to make your corner of the world better.