A blog post pointing you to a test about what makes a happy family. If you don’t have time to take the test, see below for the short answer and my thoughts.
Here’s the short answer. “… what do happy families do right? Happy families adapt. They talk—a lot. They go out and play. And they make the decision to keep working on their family. In the end, this may be the most enduring lesson of all. What’s the biggest secret to a happy family? Trying.”
Parenting advice about being a happier family
Remember all such tests are generalizations. I find them useful to make me think. I took the test and probably did better than most, but still got a few wrong.
For example: I think when teaching money management via an allowance, parents need to have kids set some aside to save and some aside for charity. The correct answer was let the kids learn on their own. Good when some ground work has been laid, but that ground work needs laying. Or at least that is my not so humble opinion.
Tip number one: The article makes the point that kids do not want to spend more time with parents as much as they want parents to be less stressed and tired. Blame our too fast past society and too many demands on parents. But you can take some control of your life and work to stress less.
Tip number two: Not mentioned in the article, but related to the need to stress less. Start early to teach your children to de-stress. Here is a quick and easy tip. Take breathing and laughing breaks and take them as a family. Two or three calming breaths, done holding hands in a circle and then followed by a go-round of practicing laughter and ending with a “Yes cheer” takes only a minute and eases stress for every one.
Tip number three: Too busy to laugh, then you are too busy. Reorder your priorities. Your kids will keep growing and not finding time to laugh and play with them will become a big regret when they flee the nest.
Tip number four: A plug for my eBook Parents Are People Too, An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents. Being a foster parent made me realize I had to take care of my tired and stressed feelings if I was going to expect the troubled teenagers living with me to take care of their feelings. That was the start of my interest in Emotional Fitness and the founding of my company Emotional Fitness Training.
Here’s what one reviewer said about my book: “I’m a grandparent now and care for my grandchildren off and on. Negative feelings try to corner me when I am caring for my grandchildren. I read the first edition of Parents Are People Too years ago. I am delighted it has been revised and published in Kindle form and equally delighted for this opportunity to praise it. Levine’s Emotional Fitness Programs are practical, easy to practice and they work if you work them.”
Life is a struggle and more so in our over-worked age. Add trying to raise healthy, happy kids, to working outside the home and the stress doubles. For your sake, the sake of your children, and the world as a whole make sure your priorities are to live now, to spend happy time with your children, to nurture your own happiness needs and to always make time for laughter and play.
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