Think again. The Neuro-linguistic programmers thought they knew. They didn’t. Here’s a link explaining their theory.
Having lived with lots of lying teens, I will testify in the court of pop psychology that every bit of advice about how to tell if someone is lying only works some of the time with some people, but only some of the time and only with some people. Even lie detectors cannot always spot a liar.
Parent advice for dealing with a lying child
My rule was not punish if all I had was a feeling a teen might be lying. Feelings are not proof. Minimally, before I decided I had been told a lie, I needed more proof than just my suspicion. If those suspicions were strong enough, I might express my skepticism by saying “Truth will out.”
Truth be told, truth about each lie will not always out. But sooner or later a teen into serious lying will be outed. Waiting until then to take action is wiser than erring and accusing a teen of lying when she isn’t.
Life can be hurtful, and when we find those we love have lied, the pain is intense. Staying strong, loving, and caring is not always easy.
You will find more detailed help in my ebook about lying or in my other books. You can find all listed on my Amazon author’s page. Scroll down the page for a listing of the ebooks. If you buy one, please review.
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As I tell myself a thousand times a day, stay strong, give lots of love, be grateful, practice kindness, live now, give and seek forgiveness, and always hope the blessing of the forces beyond our control are with you and those you love.
DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA. If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. Dysgraphia is a not well known learning disability and means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are. If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere. If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.