Think you don’t break the law? Think again, your children are watching you.
PARENT ADVICE ABOUT PARENTAL HONESTY
First some thoughts and then some tips. To a parent it doesn’t mean too much. Lie about a kid’s age to pay a bit less. Brag about not getting caught speeding. Slip through a stop sign. Take a sample grape or two in the grocery store. Litter. A clerk under charges you, you say nothing, but comment later on your good luck. Many take these little adventures into breaking the law, without thinking. After all most are misdemeanors at best and generally, not even that.
Here are some bigger ones: teaching your kid to drive before he can barely reach the pedals.
Even bigger – having an unlicensed gun in you house; yes, sad to say some parents are guilty of that and don’t keep it a secret or worse ask the kids to keep a secret.
Think you know what is coming: First tip is a repeat.
Tip one: Model being a law-abiding citizen. Start early and keep it up. When you teach your child to walk safely in the street, note that the law says we must wait for a green light or cross only at the corners. These little steps promote right behavior.
The younger your child the more important it is to stress the need to be law-abiding. Reasonable, just and fair laws keep everyone safe.
Tip two: The day will come when your child will start questioning some laws. That is a sign s/he thinks more like an adult pattern of thinking. Then you can have a conversation about four things:
- laws keep people safe and protect people from unfair treatment
- about choices and responsiblity for the choices you make
- not all laws are reasonable
- about responsible ways to work toward making all laws reasonable
Tip three: Be patient, if you kid does run aground with the law, make sure you read my E-book When Good Kids Break The Law. Better to have read it as your kid is learning to walk and talk. It is volume 9 in the When Good Kids Do Bad Things series. Volume 1 is free.
Parenting is hard work and contending with a child breaking the law or thought by the police to have broken the law can send you into a panic. Suspect you are reading this because you are concerned. Good. My intent has not been to scare you, but to educate you. Hopefully, the above tips will help you deal effectively with the situation and your child will be scared straight.
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