It is legal in many states to give your own kids alcohol in your  home or for religious reasons.   Doing so is one way to teach social drinking skills.

Thought this poster would both remind you to plan some break time in the next few days as well thinking abou thow to use break time to teach the important social skills involved in alcohol consumption.    And yes, that might involve sharing a bit of alcohol.


Here is one description of when it is legal to serve your child a drink.  I found this on Answers but know it is accurate.  The Yahoo answers to the same question were all inaccurate.

The law states that the legal age for drinking is 21. There is a single form of parental exception. A parent can serve alcohol to their own child – AND ONLY THEIR OWN CHILD – within their own residence. However, the parents are legally liable under child endangerment laws if their child drinks to the point of inebriation or becomes ill due to the alcohol consumed. This exception was built into the law because several religious ceremonies conducted at home include consumption of wine. However, there is a very big difference between letting your child have a few sips of wine at the Passover Seder and throwing your kids a kegger. Also, you are never permitted to serve alcohol to anyone else’s children, even if their parents give their consent. Your teenage child can aso be arrested if he serves alcohol to his friends, even if he or she is younger than 21. Parents in many states have been found guilty of knowingly allowing underage drinking in their home.

We serve wine at our Shabbat meals and when we were foster parents we asked if the foster children could be served wine.  The answer was yes.

Read my earlier posts on this subject for all my tips.   But as your teen ager ages you can start the process of introducing the idea of drinking as a social event.  With little kids sharing hot chocolate and a special time together.  When the teens are entered upon, think about small celebratory toasts with a bit of wine.

One of my best friends had her first taste of wine when she first got her period.  I was so envious of that fact.  Not because of the wine, but because of the acknowledgment that something worth celebrating had entered her life.  In my family when you got your period you “Fell off the roof” and that was not to be discussed.  That however is a subject for another day.

Certainly, when a child celebrates the birthday that allows him to apply for  driving permit is worth  celebrating with a bit of wine, for it  also provides you with a chance to review the handout of the Seven Rules of Drinking.  You can also review your state’s  zero tolerance law about driving and drinking.  Check your state’s law out and see that you child reads it.  It will be on the written test.

Just in case you haven’t seen the rules, here they are again.


Then you can celebrate when you child get his or her permit and once again review the rules and the law.

I am sure you get the point.  Are you a non-drinking family?  You can celebrate within your culture’s rules. Sparkling Grape Juice would probably be your drink of choice.  Keep the drink special and do discuss the difficulties of being a non-drinking in a drinking culture.  Share how you navigate not drinking at functions where the liquor flows freely. 


Parenting is hard work and the best of parents cannot always keep a child from becoming a problem drinker. If you have cause to worry about a child of yours  buy my E – book When Good Kids Drink and Drug; it is now available at the introductory price of $0.99.

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