THOUGHTS ABOUT PARENTING
At some point during my teens, I think it was I read the story attached to the words “This Too Shall Pass Away.” An unhappy king was comforted in the midst of depression by these words. When I became a parent, I taped the words “Now is not forever” on my refrigerator door. Those words became one of my self-talk mantras and got me through many hard times.
First tip: Take the long view. When a baby has kept you up most of the night with colic that is not easy, but still helpful to know this is a stage and not the rest of your life or your child’s life.
Second tip: Monitor your self talk. Mostly when our last nerve is being stepped on we tell ourselves “I can’t stand this.” Not true, you will and you can. Better to work at replacing those words with a “This Too Shall Pass Away” or “Now Is Not Forever” or some variation of the same. Self talk can calm you down or make everything that is going on worse. Make yours calming.
Tip three: After a stressful time take a restorative break. Even a few minutes breathing calm will help. Go here to learn EFT’s Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises. Each takes only a minute to practice. Moreover, each is easy to learn, easy to practice and helpful to anyone dealing with life’s stresses and every day problems.
Being a parent in today’s world is extremely hard. Most parents work at an outside job as well as the job of being a parent. Moreover, parents are supposed to raise happy-all-the-time children. Nonsense. Unhappiness in a child is often the best tool life has for teaching what matters. Happiness is fine, but being a caring person matters much more.
As I tell myself a thousand times a day, do not weaken, give lots of love to others and to yourself, be grateful, practice kindness, live now, give and seek forgiveness, and always hope the blessing of the forces beyond our control are with you and those you love.
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