Take a break from spending on you and yours.  Involve your kids in using part of your break time money to give to those in greater need, here is one idea. hurricane-sandy-haiti

IMAGE FROM IBTIMES’  story about food shortages in Haiti after hurricane Sandy.

Kara Lightburn, the daughter of a dear friend of mine  has devoted her life to working in Haiti.  She is the founder of The Haiti initiative. Today on her face book page, she posted this:

“After spending the past 4 hours at two hospitals in Cayes Jacmel and Jacmel for our friend and new operational manager Papouj whose been terribly sick for the past 4 days – I can report Cholera is on the rise – 10 cases came in the door within the first hour only to be sent to another hospital – obviously lacking the resources to handle the rise in cholera cases- anxious to get out of the hospital.
The above was an  event at Fordham University in NY City.  Volunteers arealways needed.  Click here to request a   Volunteer Application Form.

The above was an event at Fordham University in NY City. Volunteers are always needed. Click here to request a Volunteer Application Form.

Kara is a lovely young woman, privileged to be raised in the USA, by loving parents and aware of her privilege.  Anyone would be proud to claim her as theirs.  She does more than most to repay all she has been given.  With the help of her parents, she started The Haiti Initiative.  THI has finally received not for profit status so gifts can be deducted.  Also think about volunteering as a family to help this or another worthy cause.

Have a kid in college or graduating from high school? Think about having him or her volunteer somewhere. THI with Kara  might be a good place to explore as a possibility.


Tip one: Many of our youth are like Kara, few go as far as she does in her efforts to help.  Partly that has been because her family give much.  So modeling caring and sharing is the place to start.

Tip two:  Let your kids see you giving money. Give to the beggars on the street, at your religious organization.  Give to those no one else  gives to. Give to those everyone gives to, but give money.

Tip three: Have you kids start giving money as soon as they are old enough to put a coin in the slot of donation boxes scattered here or there.

Tip four: Recycle and have your kids part of deciding what toy or clothes to give away and which need trashing.  Have the kids go with you to the donation center.

Tip five: Volunteer your family for hands on giving.  Do so formally and informally.  Have your kids with you when you do some hands on giving.  Shopping for an invalid, visiting a lonely neighbor, mowing the lawn of a shut in. For on-going giving think of Food Kitchens and if your kids are old enough think of Habitat for Humanity

Tip six:  Buy from organizations that sell goods from third world companies, but make sure the money goes mostly to the  people who make the goods.

Tip seven: Have your children take part in giving  loans to Kiva or gifts to Heifer.  These two empower families.

Tip eight – Tithe from your kids allowance. Give the tithed amount to the charity of your child’s choice at the end of the year. Don’t give an allowance – very important to start doing so. Teaches many important life skills.

Once you start giving an allowance, in addition to tithing,  save 10% of the allowance to teach saving. The savings will grow and make the point that small steps produce large results.  Give the saving account money a graduation gift.  Tithe it too.

Tip nine: Teach your kid about various programs that you can click and give to when on the computer.  A great one for kids is the Rice Game.  Improves vocabulary while feeding the hungry. 

Tip ten: Teach your kids not to worry if your giving seems unappreciated.  Remind that they give to do the right thing and to feel good about who they are.  Point out that at some level the other person has been helped even if shame and false pride make it hard for some to be gracious when accepting help.


Parenting is hard work,  For many today’s difficult economic times have made it even harder.  Turn today’s more difficult money struggles into teachable lessons.  As the Irish say, “Enough is a feast” and that is a good thing for your child to learn.  Giving to those in greater need re-enforces what we have and helps us be grateful.


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Thank you for following me and for your support. As I tell myself a thousand times a day, stay strong, give lots of love, be grateful, practice kindness, live now, give and seek forgiveness, and always hope  the blessing of the forces beyond our control are with you and those you love.


DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA.  If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. Dysgraphia is a not well-known learning disability and means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are.  If this troubles you, feel free to read elsewhere.  If you persevere, you are practicing kindness by lifting my spirits for that means you find what I say helpful and that is one of my missions. Kindness always repays those who spread it.

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