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A Resource for NY parents and teachers

I know and have worked personally with Gary Shulman and can endorse his abilities whole heartedly. He is offering two sets of workshops through  schools in NYCity

For Parents: Needs, Wants, Wishes and Dreams: Programs and Services that Bring Relief to Parents of Children with Special Needs and DisabilitiesLife can be stressful when your child is “labeled” as having a special need or disability. This interactive workshop will look at all the various support services out there to bring you some needed relief. There are many programs, services, systems and strategies that will help you maximize the strengths, skills and talents of your child while helping with the special needs. Intervention programs, social skills groups, parents support groups, benefits and entitlements, laws that protect your rights, respite services, special developmental clinics, sources of sensory stimulation and much more will be explored. The goal of this workshop is to provide you with: information, motivation and inspiration. You are not alone! Let’s share our needs, wants wishes and dreams together. “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” There are strong umbrellas out there to protect you from the storms and help you dance!For Staff: Needs, Wants Wishes and Dreams: Programs and Services that Support Parents of Children with Disabilities in Your Program

Parents of children with disabilities and special needs are often devastated by the “labeling” of their child. They turn to professionals for support, information and counseling. This workshop looks at a family in an holistic way. If there are stressors at home, it is difficult for a child to function appropriately at school. This interactive workshop will give you an overview of the programs, services and systems that can empower parents of children with special needs and disabilities. We will share our already existing knowledge base and expand from there to learn about the many “treasures” of NYC that help to maximize a child’s abilities and strengths while providing the necessary therapeutic intervention to deal with the diagnosed special need. Put yourself in the shoes of a parent whose child has been diagnosed as having a disability and with that mind-set let’s brainstorm together ways that we can provide them with support, hope and encouragement. This workshop will give you the tools to do that, and much more. You will be given information, motivation and inspiration to be the best possible support for your parents and their children.

For more information about how to arrange a workshop through  your school contact :Gary Shulman, MS. Ed.,  646-596-5642


Working together with professionals is at often wearisome and at times only adds hurt to the pain of loving and caring for challenged child.  The more professionals and parents can partner constructively, the more help the child will receive.

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  1. Gary Shulman, MS. Ed.

    When Your Neighbor Has a Child with A Disability
    Gary Shulman, MS. Ed.
    Special Needs Consultant and Trainer

    Who doesn’t want their child to have friends…… be popular, well liked, respected, invited to parties and play dates? Now put your feet into the shoes of a parent caring for a child with a disability. That neighbor, that friend, that community member has all the same wishes and dreams for their child whose daily challenges often make socialization and friendship difficult and scary.

    How can you support your neighbor who has a child in need of friends? Just remember the simple things you were probably taught by your parents and your best teachers:

    Be polite and offer a warm and friendly hand. Chances are it will be grabbed with grateful delight.

    Learn appropriate terminology: Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can devastate me. If you have a question about your neighbor’s child with a disability pertaining to that disability, it is kind and respectful to not use the disability to define who that child is. That child is not his/her disability. The disability is part of who that child is but so is: a love of music, enjoying swimming, loving to be hugged, laughing at funny faces and much, much more.

    Try to avoid stereotyping based upon preconceived notions pertaining to characters traits that have been attached to certain disabilities. Always look for the abilities, skills, interests, talents and passions first!

    Example: Oh I see you have a Downs child! They are so cute and loving all the time!!!

    Yikes!!: Always acknowledge the individual child first. You wouldn’t want your child to be referred to as “Well there’s that red head kid, they are always so freckled and temperamental!” Of course not.

    Better: Hello, I am your neighbor Mrs. Jones. I have a little boy also. How old is your son? What’s his name. What does he enjoy? My son also loves to play in the water! I have a small rubber pool, how about setting up a play date? Pardon me for asking, but I notice that your son has Down Syndrome. May I ask you a few questions so I can learn a bit about how that affects him. I appreciate your educating me about this. I would love my son and yours to become friends-it seems that they have a lot in common.

    How else can you support your neighbor who has a child with a disability?

    Be a good friend. A good friend listens, is compassionate, offers information that helps, understands that there will be good and bad days, doesn’t constantly judge and asks how he/she can offer help when it is needed.

    Understand that the life of caring for a child with a disability can be very exhausting. Think of how exhausting it is raising your child without special needs! Offering respite in the form of a play date will be so appreciated.

    A second ear: Your neighbor will have to go to so many appointments pertaining to meeting the needs of her child with a disability. Ask if she would like you to accompany her. It can be very helpful to have a second objective ear to listen to what is being said. Depending on the nature of what is being discussed, you may or may not be able to listen to everything, but just being there can be so comforting.

    If you have the time, do some research about programs and services for your friend if she is too over-whelmed to do it herself. Always ask first. Sometimes parents don’t want to be bombarded with information until they ask for it or are ready for it.

    Bottom line: A friend is a friend is a friend. You will find more in common with your neighbor who has a child with a disability than differences. Compassion, understanding, laughter, sharing time, and support are all the ingredients for establishing a warm and caring relationship with your neighbor who has a child with special needs. It’s the right thing to do and all benefit!

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