Why this parenting topic?
As I do every Friday, I will be signing off soon. As always I want to remind you to do the same
As the poet William Henry Davies said, “A poor life this, if full of care, We have no time to stand and stare.”
When was the last time you took an hour just to stand and stare? Staring mindlessly at the television does not count.
I cannot remember a time recently when I spent an entire hour standing and staring. Standing makes me restless, I want to walk or sit. The closest I come to just staring is when I am lying in bed waiting for my mind to quiet, for sleep to capture me.
When I was a child, I would sit and stare easily often for longer than an hour. My favorite spot was climbing a tree and always with a book in hand; sometimes I would get lost in the book, other times I would get lost in just staring at the scene below. A second favorite spot was under that same tree, lying on the ground and staring at the leaves and the sky.
I am not certain we need to just stand and stare. I am certain, however, that we need to free ourselves from all the cares pushing us this way and pulling us that way often enough to actually be ourselves. We need to see that our children are free to be. Doing so is important not just for you, but for your children, all the others you hold dear, and the world at large.
Just do it. Sometime this weekend go somewhere with your family, plunk everyone down on the ground or a bench and have a sitting and staring and keeping quiet contest. The last one sitting gets a really good reward. First one up has to do the dishes for a week and you can plan other punishments down to the one who gets the really good reward. Or something like that. You get the point.
Also as always plan your me-time and mate-time. The above serves as family time and quiet time although you might need to add another quiet time for yourself.
Thinking about what matters
Doing nothing is better than being busy doing nothing.
Life is a struggle, full of pain and suffering. Parenting intensifies the struggle, but also brings more joy to your life.
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Disclaimer one: Advice is just advice.
Even the most learned researchers and theorists quarrel about much. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you by others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors
Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability that is akin to dyslexia when one writes. No matter how much I edit, mistakes get by. When I am in a rush, posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow me. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; if a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, try reading it a few days later. Often I catch the worse mistakes when I read the post after a few days.