WHY THIS PARENT ADVICE TOPIC: School is a child’s job and when a child does well in school, parents relax.  But only 25% of kids excel and the less well a child does the more tension grows for the parent and the child.  This post builds on the previous post and deals with the role temperament plays in school success.

A shy child do well in small class rooms overseen by  a quiet teacher who is more also a bit shy.   That same child can get lost in a  large class room with an active busy, extroverted teacher.  A bold child  might shine in such large active class room, but be seen as disruptive by an introverted teacher.


Parent tip one: If you did not read the previous post, “Loves School? Hates School?” do so now.  You cannot understand goodness of fit, it you don’t have at least an introductory  understanding of  temperament.

Parent tip two: When you are fairly confident you understand your child’s temperament, have a brief face to face with your child’s teacher to figure out his or her temperament style.

Parent tip three:  Next arrange to visit your child’s classroom for at least an hour or two.

Parent tip four: Put together what you have observed and arrange a parent/teacher conference to discuss you ideas about the goodness of fit.

Parent tip five:  Stay calm and not blaming when meeting with your child’s teacher or any other school official. Make them your friends, you share common interests–a child’s ability to learn.  You might want to buy my book Parents are People Too, an Emotional Fitness Program for Parents.   The newly revised addition will be published electronically within the next two weeks.  Watch for the announcement.

Parent tip six:  Sign up for this blog or follow me on  Twitter or Pinterest; either offers additonal support and parents need all the support they can find.

Parent tip seven:  Read Parents Are People’s Too, the electronic version is due any day.  Watch for the announcment.

Parent tip eight: Stay tuned for the next post for dealing with school problems. A Take a Break post comes up next, use the break to think more about temperament and fit.


Like this post; comment on it,  if only to tell me what you didn’t like;  share it.  On Pinterest? Pin it and follow me; I will follow you.  Every action you take will help me stay strong, will strengthen you, and hopefully some others.

You will also be practicing one of the 12 Daily Emotional Fitness Exercises.  Click here to view all Daily Emotional Fitness  Exercises. If  regular practice of the 12 Daily Emotional Fitness Exercises does not improve the quality of your life, more might be needed.  That is the time to think about adding more support to your life or  getting coaching, counseling or therapy.

Good luck, life is a struggle, caring for children harder than you expect AND despite the struggle, life as a parent can be wonderful and the best part of life as a grown up.



First:  All advice should be thought of as suggestion, particularly parent advice.  Take it all with a grain of salt, mine included.

Second: Sometimes my posts are a bit peppered with mis-spellings, oddly used words, weird puncutation.  These stem from a lesser known learning disablity called dysgraphia, but also from rushing.  My apologies. Don’t read or check back in a day or so, as I usually catch most of the errors when I re-read.  Also practice forgiveness is a useful Emotional Fitness Exercise.


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