This one is for parents and computer nerds like me. Laughter keeps you emotionally fit. A parent who cannot laugh is a parent on the edge.
When you cannot laugh you may be in the midst of a life blow or beaten up by smaller blows. Either way more is needed – more support and possibly therapy. This post is for those not so beaten down and who can use laughter to stay emotionally fit.
PARENT ADVICE ON LAUGHTER
Most of these tips are to keep you laughing. A few are to teach your children to laugh.
Tip one: Find a daily laugh site. My friend Jack’s email serves as one for me. But there is also my blogging friend The Laughing Housewife and a number of others. Surfing Pinterest quotes almost always finds me laughing. As parents, David and I never went to bed without first watching Johnnie Carson.
Tip two: Collect a few videos that get your rolling in the aisle. Buddy Hackett for those of you too young to remember is one of my favorites. He is a bit X-rated, so don’t watch if easily offended by such stuff. Here he is on Johnnie Carson. A two for one laugh..
Tip Three: Follow a comedian on Twitter. I follow Steve Martin.
Tip Four: Practice laughing. There is a Yogi Laughter Exercise.
Tip Five: For parents of fighting kids. Have them sit on special time out chairs, facing each other, but far enough away so cannot hit or kick. They are to express their anger through angry faces. When both are laughing, time out is up.
Tip Six: Keep efforts to laugh kind. I like Buddy Hackett because most of his jibs are against himself.
Tip Seven: Remember what matters by taking the long view, be generous and kind. Those who kill over cartoons or jokes are wrong, wrong, wrong.
Tip Eight: A joke offends you? Shrug it off. Or offer a brief I message. “I perfer Martian jokes” is mine for those who make fun of other groups.
Tip Nine: Someone making fun of another person face-to-face say as gently as possible “I don’t find that funny.” Then change the subject to something pleasant.
Tip ten: Parents take time each day to play with your child. Playing should lead to laughter, if not it still builds emotional strength. Get down on the floor with your pre-preschooler, declare a game night for older kids. Have a joke night once a week at dinner.
Which reminds me of a Bob Hope joke, ”If you watch a game, it’s fun. If you play it, it’s recreation. If you work at it, it’s golf.”
Parenting is difficult and often a struggle as you must know by now. All sorts of feelings surface. Some make you laugh right then and there. Some you can laugh about after a bit of time has passed. Some cannot be laughed about. Try my tips to add laughter to your life and your child’s life. Also visit my Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises for more hints about staying strong.
If there is no laughter in your home that is a sure sign more is needed. Get competent professional help.
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DISCLAIMER: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS FOR I HAVE DYSGRAPHIA. If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here. I have dysgraphia which means that sometimes my sentence structure is not that easy to follow or I make other errors. Still, most people understand me. All of my books are professionally edited, but not all of my blog posts are. Thanks for your understanding and reading my work.
FURTHER PARENT ADVICE CAN BE FOUND IN MY BOOKS
All my books are available on Amazon, and readable on any tablet, laptop, Mac, PC, e-reader or Kindle device.‘When Good Kids Do Bad Things. A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers‘ Parents Are People Too. An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents Tame the Test Anxiety Monster How to Hold A Successful Family Meeting